Guest NINJYA Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Im feeling so low at the moment - the last few weeks have been awful. My daughters dad did a disappearing act - no phonecalls nothing. He was looking after my daughters little dog. My daughter was missing her dad and wanted to see her dog - so i did what i could to try and find him - no one new where he was. Then finally i found a friend of his and he told me he was bang on crack and he had sold the dog for crack. Angry and upset i went to his home that was our home - as i still had a key. I went in - the place is disgusting - mouldy food in the kitchen, filth everywhere and the smell of urine was awful. He had sold anything of value. I got all of my daughters belongings - she is no way ever setting foot in that place again. To think that my ex has turned to this - a weak, disgusting loser. I cant describe how i feel - seeing all this and having to be strong for my daughter who has just lost her dad and her dog. I cant do much about her dad but if anyone sees or knows of a little jack russell called shady - he is black and tan and has a long tail - please let me know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian W Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 oh jesus....that's awful i'm sure i don't really need to say this but our thoughts are with you. unfortunatley i doubt shady will turn up here in scotland but i'll keep my eyes peeled anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamieP Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Really sorry to hear that, sounds like you are both better off without him, good luck in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2JG Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 that's disgusting!! i'm sure he'll get what's coming to him, karma is a b****! keep your head up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 That's bad, as Jamie said your both better off without him. Things will brighten up soon I'm sure! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra-lover Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 christ.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mr lover Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 that is truely crap, how old is your daughter, does she realise whats going on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Sorry to hear this Ninjya! What a selfish bastard. To sell his daughters pet for money is absolutely unforgivable. I don't care what his problem is but I feel that a good kicking is the only thing that could make him see sense! I hate druggies, they are losers with a complete lack of mental strength. They f@ck up everyone around them, kids family etc and for what?? Hope your daughter is ok. H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CJ Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 I am really sorry to read this Ninjya and hope that your daughter gets over it quickly. In saying that, I am not going to jump on the bandwagon of castigating your ex. Addictions in any form are a terrible disease and until people walk in those shoes then they really should not comment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooter Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 I hate druggies, they are losers with a complete lack of mental strength. They f@ck up everyone around them, kids family etc and for what?? Lets just hope it never happens to your kids or someone close to you, i suspect you may be more compassionate then?........ some people take breakups really hard..............its no excuse but once you are on the slippery slope and foolish/stupid enough to look to drugs for happiness its a battle to turn it around........ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 I am really sorry to read this Ninjya and hope that your daughter gets over it quickly. In saying that, I am not going to jump on the bandwagon of castigating your ex. Addictions in any form are a terrible disease and until people walk in those shoes then they really should not comment. Been in those shoes on a couple of occasions CJ, I have seen first hand what these so called diseases do to innocent family members and the lasting effects years later. Not drugs but alchohol!! Apologies if your comment wasn't aimed at me! H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Lets just hope it never happens to your kids or someone close to you, i suspect you may be more compassionate then?........ some people take breakups really hard..............its no excuse but once you are on the slippery slope and foolish/stupid enough to look to drugs for happiness its a battle to turn it around........ Sorry Scooter, I was typing my reply to CJ when you posted. I do not mean to be unsympathetic but in my own experience I cannot understand why people do such selfish things! Difficult issue to discuss over the internet but I made a promise that I would NEVER let people down in that way. Especially my kids! H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CJ Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Been in those shoes on a couple of occasions CJ, I have seen first hand what these so called diseases do to innocent family members and the lasting effects years later. Not drugs but alchohol!! Apologies if your comment wasn't aimed at me! H. It was aimed at you mate and seeing the effects and feeling the effects are two different things. Drugs, alcohol, gambling addictions etc are not traits - they are a disease that people suffer from. Now, before people jump in here and say that these people made a choice whether to take drugs etc then those same arguments apply to anyone of us who has ever smoked blow, had a beer or bet on a horse. The difference is that most people do not have an addictive personality and therefore never end up in the obvious shit state that this character is in. Sometimes, "there but for the grace of God goes I" is extremely relevant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 It was aimed at you mate and seeing the effects and feeling the effects are two different things. Drugs, alcohol, gambling addictions etc are not traits - they are a disease that people suffer from. Now, before people jump in here and say that these people made a choice whether to take drugs etc then those same arguments apply to anyone of us who has ever smoked blow, had a beer or bet on a horse. The difference is that most people do not have an addictive personality and therefore never end up in the obvious shit state that this character is in. Sometimes, "there but for the grace of God goes I" is extremely relevant. I appreciate your point of view Colin. The angle I am coming from is along story and would not like to hijack this thread but there is a young girl who is heartbroken here and no matter what my desire was to flush my own life down the toilet, you must take responsibility for the people you are going to take with you. Before I had a family, I had the desire to go down that route but I was strong or lucky enough not to go there! Now I have children, wife etc it is not even an option. Like you said though. Maybe I have been fortunate enough not to have an addictive personality. But I would imagine it is the affects of other peoples addictions that have strengthened my resolve! H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest NINJYA Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Thankyou all for your comments, i know i have to stay strong for beth but it still hurts. Mr Lover - beths is 8 in august - she doesnt know that her dads a drug addict and she wont find out - ive told her the dog is lost. I want to protect her from this - nothing else matters but her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homer Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Amen, CJ. An old mate of mine was recently buried after getting hooked on crack just 3 years ago. I could write forever about his downfall, as CJ says addiction is like a disease which has little option for a cure once you're in the cycle. Crack/Meth is about as bad as it gets. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Sorry to hear about your situation. Mike and I have a very good friend who we know is an alcoholic but it's really difficult to accept as up until a few years ago he was just one of 'our group' who enjoyed a drink like all of us. We were looking at photos recently and the change even over the last few years or so is enormous and really sad. How do you tell someone they are throwing their life away? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest NINJYA Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Lets just hope it never happens to your kids or someone close to you, i suspect you may be more compassionate then?........ some people take breakups really hard..............its no excuse but once you are on the slippery slope and foolish/stupid enough to look to drugs for happiness its a battle to turn it around........ My ex always wanted drugs even when i was with him - not hard drugs just Es but he had me a lovely daughter, a home, a job a nice car - yet he stiil wasnt happy - always wanted to be off his head...... some people like living like this -theres no exscuse - youve just got to want to stop - and live. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest NINJYA Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Amen, CJ. An old mate of mine was recently buried after getting hooked on crack just 3 years ago. I could write forever about his downfall, as CJ says addiction is like a disease which has little option for a cure once you're in the cycle. Crack/Meth is about as bad as it gets. Thats terrible - but i know he can get off it - when we first met he did it he cleaned up.... i feel so bad for him even after all he put me through - i still care - i dont know why. I just hope he doesnt end up in a grave. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooter Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 My ex always wanted drugs even when i was with him - not hard drugs just Es but he had me a lovely daughter, a home, a job a nice car - yet he stiil wasnt happy - always wanted to be off his head...... some people like living like this -theres no exscuse - youve just got to want to stop - and live. i didn't want to make is seem like i was having a go at all, just trying to point out to others how whilst we have the best intentions we don't really 100% know how we'll react when faced with certain situations......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juanchan Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Sorry to hear this Ninjya. As others have said, hopefully you will be better off without him. Hope things make a turn for the better soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edge Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Sad to hear about this. Hope you two get through it in the best way. And maybe he may see the light and sort himself out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colsoop Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Thats terrible but your are better far away from that. I think i still have the contact details of a breeder round here who breeds black and tan jack russels if you are looking for another. I have one myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stupra Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Sorry to hear this, hope thing's work out well for you and your lil lady, and hope he get's help before it's to late. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Bloody hell is all I can say....Sorry to hear this... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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