RobSheffield Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Great post thanks Linda. Following on from what Rob S said too, there will no doubt be an opportunity for us to pick things up at a later stage in our lives - I just think we're at that make or break checkpoint right now. Just need to think about now too really. Do I break things off with Em now and let her do her own thing before uni and let me concentrate on RAF training etc, or do I wait til I hear about the RAF for sure and then decide? Do I cancel our holiday in July, I only have 3 weeks more to do so, or do I let things roll even though by this time we might not be together? Just a mess!!!! I think you might be well off sticking together for now, you may need support and so will she through exams etc. Hang in there dude and 'Woosaaah' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 I don't think you should stay together if it's just for the sake of staying together until x time. It's not really fair on either of you as if you are going to split you both probably need clear heads for your futures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samsupra37 Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Silly statement coming up.......Stop arguing and enjoy the moment, what will happen between the two of you will happen, you will either grow apart as your focuses move onto wider things or it will as happens to many pull you closer. My personal opinion see what happens stop trying to force issues which don't have to be resolved today........on the job front stay with what you are doing untill you know where your future lies...if the sales manager wants you that bad he will wait........ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chilly Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Sheefa Even if your RAF application for Officer cadet is unsuccessful, dont cast aside joining up as a junior rank. You can then apply for a commisssion after 2 years of service. Positives from that are you will have seen the service from both both sides and would give you massive respect over an officer who has joined straight from Uni cos his rich daddy used to be an officer. The RAF is like a new family and you will quickly meet new friends and collegues. Its not often that someone who joins up remains with their present girlfirend. Circumstances change and so will you as an individual (military bearing). Do not make decisions based on what other people want you to achieve. Its your life and you gotta make the most of it. Enjoy what you have for now, if you succeed in joining the RAF, then start your new life and if your girlfriend wnats to be a part of it then so be it. If not my friend then theres plenty more fish in the sea. At 25 do you want to look out of the same window at the same scenary for the rest of life? I think not. Besides most RAF stations have a runway of some sort or another...Supra time!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chilly Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Also If you speak to your local Armed Forces Careers Office they can arrange for you to visit an RAF Station, this would give you the opportunity to speak to personnel and see what military life is all about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivan Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Go for the RAF Greg. It sounds like you won't have any problem getting in or passing OASC to me. In the meantime, make the most of the time you've got with the g/f. As soon as she hits Uni you're outta sight outta mind in any case as far as she's concerned. No need to split up already though unless things get too sticky. And go for the role change too. The boss already knows your future plans so no problem there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SupraStar 3000 Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Go for the RAF MATE WISH I HAD!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mcgoo Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 It don't sound like shes 'the one' to me mate but do what feels best. You may feel great relief if you do make the break and give you a clear mind to concentrate on your goals but having the balls to do it is the hard bit. Or, you could do what most blokes would do and take the easy option- stay with her for now, join the RAF and if you wernt meant to be you will split up then. Up to you. By the look of it the RAF has been a dream for you for a long time, I think you have to give it a go or i'm sure you will regret it. I'm at the other end of the scale and doing my last few months of my 9 year contract in the RAF and I am now looking forward to life back in the real world. Even in my time things have changed and not for the better. 'They' are trying to run it like a buisiness but in practice this dosn't seem to work very well. Alot of RAF jobs are being civillianised and us 'techies' are finding our selves answering to BAE rather than the MOD. This won't effect RAF regiment but just something to keep in mind as the atmosphere is changing. Saying all that, I'm glad its something I done when when I had the chance and don't regret it one bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
penguin Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Go for the RAF MATE WISH I HAD!! it was the navy you should of applied for with all those seamen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Speak to your woman... I'm currently looking at a radical change in careers as well, which means going back to college, which I'm going to have to somehow juggle between that and a full time job. Yeah, it means that our time will be tight over the next 2 years, but we both sat down and discussed it, and she is going to use it as her chance to get some training in NHS healthcare (Something she wants to do), yeah it means for the next two years we will probably be flat out and only catch other on weekends or if she rolls over in the night and kicks me, but we are strong enough to do it... Your girl MAY support you once the decision is made actually support you, she probably has her own fears that you want more than just the RAF independence... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lambertpig Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 the biggest regret in my life was not joining one of the forces. i know it would have suited me as i love sport travelling,excitement and all that comes with the job. i have done fairly well for myself with 3 properties 3 cars and all the toys but looking back i have spent 23 years in a fish and chip restaurant and hated every minute of it. in 5 weeks time i am having the shop managed so i can try something else, its easy to stay with something you dont enjoy if it pays well. i say if you fancy the RAF then DO IT!. I wish i had now i am too old. if the decision is based about your girlfreind only then you must,girls will be plentifull anyway.GOOD LUCK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheefa Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 Thanks again guys. Sam - you're right. I'm going to make the most with the time I have with Em left regardless and we'll see how things go in the future. Who knows, our outlooks could change, but I'm adament I want the RAF, I really do. I'll stick with my current job too. Phoenix mate - I have spoken to Em about this many a time. But she gets very upset and it's difficult to stress why I NEED to do this - even just so I know I can close that door and look for another. Thanks again all. You're a good bunch! Greg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Thanks again guys. Sam - you're right. I'm going to make the most with the time I have with Em left regardless and we'll see how things go in the future. Who knows, our outlooks could change, but I'm adament I want the RAF, I really do. I'll stick with my current job too. Phoenix mate - I have spoken to Em about this many a time. But she gets very upset and it's difficult to stress why I NEED to do this - even just so I know I can close that door and look for another. Thanks again all. You're a good bunch! Greg Okay dude, reality time... If are really sure about the RAF then do it, but only you can make the final call... I gave up a possible job in the states because the wife didn't want me to go... she shagged around and at the end of the day, she got told where to go, and I didn't have my job in the US. My current missus however is all for doing things, and is VERY supportive (provided of course it doesn't affect the kids or their education, which is fair)... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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