Kookoocachu Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Im a care nurse and i have to look after people with dementia every day, allthough it is sad, be grateful that she is not violent. I have many scars and bruises from patients that just lash out. Im also glad to hear that she is smiling which is excellent for a woman of her age with dementia Remember that your nan loves you and even the her 'shell' doesent recognise you, her soul does Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Supragal Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Sorry to hear this mate. In a lot of cases it's harder on the outsiders rather than her herself, so just keep smiling and as long as it doesn't bother her then try to keep your chin up so she doesn't see you are upset Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dragonball Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Very very tragic... I have had first hand experience of Vascular Dementia with my Father... words cannot describe... I prefer to believe that the first serious onset was, in fact, really the end of him... what was left a mere echo of the man... Remember her as she was m8.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted July 10, 2006 Author Share Posted July 10, 2006 cheers for all your words guys. Im hopeing that she has many days left with a slow deteriation, then a quick ending (cant believe im having to put that) I guess its worse because we all know its kind of the beginning of the end Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Before reading this thread I never realised that senile dementia was so common. My other half's gran had it for several years. She had to go into a care home and, exactly like others have said, ended up not being able to recognize anyone from the family. I suppose it being so common nowadays is just because folks on average live longer now. Seems like a shitty way to spend your last years. Eventually even my Mrs, who is a kind person and not at all hard hearted, was saying that the old girl might as well go (to me, not in front of her gran) as she had no quality of life anymore and nothing to even look forward to. In the end that was pretty much what happened, the old girl just stopped eating and slipped away. Doesn't life suck sometimes. Hmmm. I'm feeling guilty about not visiting my own gran now. I haven't been to see her for about three years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homer Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Hmmm. I'm feeling guilty about not visiting my own gran now. I haven't been to see her for about three years. Obviously I don't know your family history but thats not good mate. Even though shes 200 miles away I feel guilty if I don't see my gran at least every couple of months. She's 84 but in great heatlh (looks like she will outlive me!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 Obviously I don't know your family history but thats not good mate. Even though shes 200 miles away I feel guilty if I don't see my gran at least every couple of months. She's 84 but in great heatlh (looks like she will outlive me!) Yeah I know I'm such a lazy git. There's no excuse really, I mean, I haven't had a job since last Sept, so I'm not exactly run off my feet. Old people are quite boring though, I run out of things to talk about after five minutes. I need a granma that's into Supras, Stella and internet trolling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homer Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 I've lost 2 grandparents while I was a Uni and spent almost no time in their company. Its a huge regret I never got to know them while I was an adult. My gran loves the Supra though, even took her shoping in it at Xmas. She loved the attention and even though it was 10 degrees insisted on having the window down to listen to the exhaust noise Hope I have that attitude at 84 yrs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 Sounds like a game old girl My gran is the only grandparent I've got left now. She's a good laugh actually. I took her 5 miles into Oxford on the back of my bike when she was like 75. I don't think she'd be up for it now s'pose I'd better get up to Oxford again before she loses her marbles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hob Posted July 11, 2006 Share Posted July 11, 2006 Lost my grandfather the other week, totally unexpected from cancer. I was going to visit my grandparents a couple of weeks ago but put it off because something came up, although I got to see him 3 times whilst in hospital, not going to stay with them and putting it off was a big mistake, visit all of your family when you can for when they are gone you will realise all the stuff you still had left to talk about. Luckily I took my Grandad out in my car the previous year, something he loved Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chiefgroover Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Just spotted this post. I have studied Dementia for 6 years now, and dealt with it first hand during that time. As the medical field have a lethargic attitude towards it in this country it hard to get any real help. There is loads you can do at this point for both your Gran and yourself. It would take me half a day to write an appropriate post on this, so if things are not going so well, all i can offer you is phone advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DamanC Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Sorry to hear this buddy My nan had it/got it whatever you say. "so nan what did you do today?" "i went for lunch with westlife" "really? what did you have to eat?" "A plant pot" Its not nice and its frustrating, just hang in there fella. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 "i went for lunch with westlife" "really? Sorry but Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DamanC Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Its hard not to laugh, but you just have to go along with it. Quite comical looking back on it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Getting old sucks, doesn't it? My nan on my mother's side (my only remaining grandparent) is 85. Amazingly, both her sisters are still alive. Her older sister, 89, is as blind as a bat and her 'little' sister, a mere 83, has totally lost her marbles. Still, they're all fiercely independent and all live in their own places, on their own. Isn't it strange how women always seem to live longer than men? You never see three 80-odd year old brothers, do you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted January 8, 2007 Author Share Posted January 8, 2007 I dont know how my nan is anymore, I'm not talking to that side of my family anymore so havent seen my nan in over 4months. Im sure she's fighting on probably with superman next to her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaoriFan Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 really sorry to see this happening for you and your nan. all i can say, like others have, remember the good times. dementia is one of the worst things to have to handle, i know. btw, sorry, for saying 'have a good time' yesterday on the other thread we were talking in. i had no idea at the time. apologies. all the best for you and your nan ja ne Ian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted January 8, 2007 Author Share Posted January 8, 2007 Dont worry bout Ian, unfortunatly its part of life now. We all live longer so we all get different problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DamanC Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Getting old sucks, doesn't it? My nan on my mother's side (my only remaining grandparent) is 85. Amazingly, both her sisters are still alive. Her older sister, 89, is as blind as a bat and her 'little' sister, a mere 83, has totally lost her marbles. Still, they're all fiercely independent and all live in their own places, on their own. Isn't it strange how women always seem to live longer than men? You never see three 80-odd year old brothers, do you. Yup, uber sucks. Ive decided im never going to get old. It is strange how women outlive men, the average life expectancy is something like 10 years difference! I dont think there is a definitive answer to this still, last i heard it was due to a womans heart being stonger or that genetically women are designed to live longer to care for their young for as long as posible. Men on the other hand are designed to 'drill one home' and then Die. Nice This probably explains why men roll over and go to sleep after finishing a job. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 I dont think there is a definitive answer to this still I work on the basis that men get pervier with age so are less useful to have around. Grannys are good for pastry based dishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 I work on the basis that men get pervier with age so are less useful to have around. Grannys are good for pastry based dishes. You may have a point. Ken Russell's later films were getting pretty dire, I can say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 You may have a point. Ken Russell's later films were getting pretty dire, I can say. Not enough rhubarb pies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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