Whitesupraboy2 Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 Well early this morning i was told my nan has dementia and is not too well. I only saw her 2 or 3 weeks ago and she seemed fine and her usual deaf self. So went round today (why i never made it to Lucifers) and took a key as she cant work the telephone to open the communial door as she doesnt hear it properly anymore. So i go upstairs knock on the door and shout that im there so she knows who it is coming in. She didnt remember me or who i was. She has always got my brothers and our names mixed up but to not remember me was a shock. Anyway after a while talkin to her, she said ohh havent you grown up as if she had forgotten some years. I stayed about an hour but i couldnt stay any longer as it fustrated me, she was talking about how her husband had called but my grandad has been dead 10 yrs or so. She would start conversations about stuff completely randomly. Im just wondering has any member had a relative go through this and what am i too expect. My Nan is 94 so she has a good innings. Most important to me is she was still laughing at the fact she couldnt hear a word i was saying and other stuff and seemed happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeordieSteve Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 That's awfull It's a horrible thing to have and terrible for the family. So sorry mate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted July 9, 2006 Author Share Posted July 9, 2006 thanks mate. Im worried bout my dad, he hides feelings well and when the inevitable happens it will eat him up but he wont say anything. Just trying to get an idea of where i can help out but i know very little bout this type of stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeordieSteve Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 I've had a grand parent with dementia and so has the misses. Really hard to put into words what to expect. Sounds like it's setting in very quick She'll slowly forget recent things and only remember things way in the past. Sadly it'll result in her going back to being a child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 I'm sorry to hear that mate. May be worth looking up some websites to see what to expect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 My gran has had alzheimer's for about 4 years now (but was diagnosed about 6 years ago). She's got gradually worse but has been really bad of late. She told the whole family to go away last week (she's in a home). If it wasn't so tragic it would actually be sort of funny. They are all alzheimer's sufferers where she is and they do such silly things. A few weeks ago they were all walking around, in an almost pack, with hats and bags as if they were going to the shops. They all have pictures and belongings in their bedrooms from other people where they've been wandering around and picked up things. It's been hard for the whole family really, my dad has taken it the worst but also granddad because obviously the person that he loved etc doesn't know who he is. Let me know if you need to chat or owt. Oh and 94 is a very good age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mr lover Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 sad news mate, i know how you feel my grandad didn't have a clue who i was for his last 3 years, very sad:( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peter richards Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 i feel for you mate i lost mine about 4 years ago now , she was also 94 so had a good life , but toward the end she went like you say couldnt remember me , but it was close to the end for her so i dont think she suffered in any way . not a day goes by when i dont think of her , and her funny ways Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted July 9, 2006 Author Share Posted July 9, 2006 well been doing some reading on it. May as well enjoy good days now by the reading worse case is it says speeds of how bad it gets can vary grately. I mean how do you go round to help someone and tell them what you been up to if they dont know who you are? as it must scare them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeordieSteve Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 Does she live alone mate? Not under care? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peter richards Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 just be there , thats all you can do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted July 9, 2006 Author Share Posted July 9, 2006 Does she live alone mate? Not under care? lives in a residental home for elderly. No care as such, just a warden who lives on the premises. she obviously has social services Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeordieSteve Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 It may be worth while considering full time care Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted July 9, 2006 Author Share Posted July 9, 2006 It may be worth while considering full time care i know, luckerly my dad actually works as a carer / manager for a private place that looks after people who cant live in the community because of their disorders. So i know he will do what is best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SupraStar 3000 Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 thats really sad mate. Hope things work out for you and your nan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewen Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 Im sorry to read this James. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zap Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 Sorry to hear this mate, one of my aunt's had Altzeimers, similar degeneration. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digsy Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 My grandad had dementia for about the last 6 years of his life, with a very slow deterioration rate. My Nan looked after him almost single handedly for all but the last year or so. Its very sad, as I'm sure you don't need me to tell you. Sorry to hear your news Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom S Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 Sorry dude. Keep the faith. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stupra Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 Sorry for the sad news mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 My nan had this and eventually died in hospital, more from starvation and her body just giving up. She was in her 90's too. It is a sad thing, as they do go back to childhood again. All you can do is make her comfortable as possible, and every now and again she'll be happy cos she'll recognise you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paul ashton Posted July 9, 2006 Share Posted July 9, 2006 My grandma is 88 and in a home,every now and again i go to see her but i don't think she recognises me,she thinks i'm her son(my dad).It's a shame but it comes to us all eventually,bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Green Peace Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 James sorry to read this. Like someone else said the best thing is to be there for her, my Uncle had this when he was alive...it can be very distressing and frustrating...sometimes she will know who you are though. its tough i know...your Dad will find it pretty tough im sure, but all you can do is be there for him and your Nan. My Uncle started talking to us...about things that happened 40 years ago and told us his wife Jean had visited and then started talking in great detail about his day at work in the Bakery ....it was fascinating to listen to but something that had happened 40 years ago as hed been retired for the last 30 years(Jean was his first wife he had a few lol) The terrible thing is he didn't recognise his wife even and asked where Jean was! Some days he was not so bad and did remember us and his wife Marge! Try be strong for ya Dad...its not easy I know. Si Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARTIN R Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Really sorry mate, hope things work out as well as they can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ben-san Posted July 10, 2006 Share Posted July 10, 2006 Dude, sorry to hear this. I've had the same with my grandfather who passed away not too long ago. It's frustrating I know, but as long as she seems happy, just go with it. As far as she's concerned, nothing's wrong at all. Chin up matey. B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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