markymark Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 ok - after reading my post, maybe i should move... before you say, I don't live in that bad an area - it's just an area that has changed a lot in the last 5 - 10 years Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paul ashton Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 only the ones I like, the rest get "wow, your hair looks lovely. Of course I will help you pick some new clothes this weekend, it would be an honour" Can i come shopping too,basques,sussies,high heels,peephole bras,crotchless nicknacks etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Stealth - she agrees to a point, but how do you explain me feeling like that? I don't feel that safe walking about on my own in the evenings - I've lived here all my life, I'm 30, I know a lot of people in the area, I can handle myself in a fight - sorry mate, not saying your argument is wrong, just wanted to try to find out what you think - I can't be the only guy on here who feels like I do I'm exactly the same bud, I'm a 6ft 4 ex-marine and I still get that "look over your shoulder" moment, it dates back to caveman times where we were prey as well as predator, I read a science paper on it once, I'll see if I can find the full thing for you, explains it pretty well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Can i come shopping too,basques,sussies,high heels,peephole bras,crotchless nicknacks etc. I was referring to you when I said it, I always thought you were pretty! that shut you up didn't it!!! lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edd_t Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Can i come shopping too,basques,sussies,high heels,peephole bras,crotchless nicknacks etc. what the hell are 'sussies' ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 found this on a childrens psychology site, it mentions endorfins, alcohol etc (to varying degrees): What Happens When You're Scared? Have you ever wondered why being scared makes your heart beat faster and makes you breathe quicker? The body's reaction to fear is called the "fight or flight" response. And people have had it since the beginning of time. Here's how it works. Imagine you're a caveman or cavewoman alive 100,000 years ago - and you come face to face with a hungry saber-toothed tiger. You have two choices: 1) Run for it (that's flight), or 2) pick up your club and battle with the tiger (that's fight). A final choice (be eaten) doesn't seem like such a good one! Today, you can apply fight or flight to that bully who confronts you and won't listen to reason. You have two choices: 1) Turn and walk away (flight), or 2) fight, even though you know fighting won't solve the problem. To prepare for fight or flight, you body does a number of things automatically so it's ready for quick action or a quick escape. Your heart rate increases to pump more blood to your muscles and brain. Your lungs take in air faster to supply your body with oxygen. The pupils in your eyes get larger to see better. And your digestive and urinary systems slow down for the moment so you can concentrate on more important things. What Is Anxiety? Usually, our bodies go into fight or flight only when there is something to fear. However, sometimes this occurs when there doesn't seem to be anything to be frightened about. When you feel scared but there doesn't seem to be a clear reason, that's called anxiety (say: ang-zye-uh-tee). There might be other feelings that come along with anxiety - like a feeling of tightness in your chest, a bellyache, dizziness, or a sense that something horrible is going to happen. These feelings can be very frightening. Sometimes anxiety can interfere with things you need to do, like learning and sleeping. For some kids, feelings of anxiety or worry can happen anytime. For others, they might occur only at certain times, like when they are leaving their home or family to go somewhere. In some people, this feeling of anxiety occurs almost all the time and gets in the way of doing what they want to do. Some kids may have a phobia (say: foe-bee-uh), which is an intense fear of something specific, such as being up high, getting dirty, the number 13, or spiders. Why Do People Have Anxiety? Anxiety can run in families. Or a person might develop anxiety after something terrible happens, like a car crash. Sometimes certain medical illnesses can cause feelings of anxiety. So can abusing alcohol or other drugs, like cocaine. Another part of the explanation has to do with the different chemicals in the brain. How the chemicals in our brain's nerve cells are balanced can affect how a person feels and acts. One of these chemicals is serotonin (say: sir-uh-toe-nun). Serotonin is one of the brain chemicals that helps send information from one brain nerve cell to another. But for some people with anxiety, this brain chemical system doesn't always seem to work the way it should. Also, some scientists think that a special area in the brain controls the fight or flight response. With anxiety, it's like having the fight or flight response stuck in the ON position - even when there is no real danger. That makes it hard to focus on everyday things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 what the hell are 'sussies' ? suspenders Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edd_t Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 suspenders oooh! mmmmm suspenders! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paul ashton Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 what the hell are 'sussies' ? What sex planet are you on matey? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markymark Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 I'm exactly the same bud, I'm a 6ft 4 ex-marine and I still get that "look over your shoulder" moment, it dates back to caveman times where we were prey as well as predator, I read a science paper on it once, I'll see if I can find the full thing for you, explains it pretty well. Nice to see that someone else is honest - I'm not 6'4'' but I can bite a few ankles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 I think this was it: http://www.psych.ucsb.edu/research/cep/papers/Emotions2000.pdf Cosmides, L. & Tooby, J. (2000). Evolutionary psychology and the emotions. In M. Lewis & J. M. Haviland-Jones (Eds.), Handbook of Emotions, 2nd Edition. (pp. 91-115.) NY: Guilford If not, let me know and I'll look again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andrew7 Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 The bottom line here is that we are all aware (even subconciously) that there are more predators walking about on the streets these days... We will end up like the Americans who drive down to the shops 100 yards away because it makes us feel more secure..... I'm afraid we are a TV and Film created culture now.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markymark Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 cheers m8 all i can say, with you its more than a wealth of knowledge, its a stealth of knowledge;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedM Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Ok, we've just been out to the pub (we walked because it's not too far away from home). So on the way back Mike (the nice boyfriend that he is) decided he wanted a random Chinese so he went one way i went the other. I suddenly felt a bit scared and I'm not sure why. It's light outside, the area isn't particularly rough but still my heart was a bit of a flutter. Why is that? I never used to be scared as a teenager. Is it because the media say that you're going to be attacked near your home? I did come across quite a few strange characters on their own. Am i just paranoid? Were you perhaps scared because, as a woman, you were worried that you'd get lost on your way home? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markymark Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Were you perhaps scared because, as a woman, you were worried that you'd get lost on your way home? :rlol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chiefgroover Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Were you perhaps scared because, as a woman, you were worried that you'd get lost on your way home? Ever ask a woman for directions? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andrew7 Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 Ever ask a woman for directions? LOL Or a Cornishman?... It's quicker to get lost...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peter richards Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 you have to be carefull who you cum across charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kittyclaws Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 I'm exactly the same bud, I'm a 6ft 4 ex-marine and I still get that "look over your shoulder" moment, it dates back to caveman times where we were prey as well as predator, I read a science paper on it once, I'll see if I can find the full thing for you, explains it pretty well. So you are an ex Bootie, never would have guessed that with the long words you use, lol, only joking. The Royal Marines are one of the finest we have ( I'm ex Navy ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 So you are an ex Bootie, never would have guessed that with the long words you use, lol, only joking. The Rolay Marines are one of the finest we have ( I'm ex Navy ) I actually started off in the navy for s short time but I was brought up around shooting (on farms) and it turns out I was pretty handy. They suggested a more specialised environment . Yeah, for a booty I do use big words (like the, and, but) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 cheers m8 all i can say, with you its more than a wealth of knowledge, its a stealth of knowledge;) It's not often that it is useful knowledge though. Just lucky this time lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bill Prawn Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 you have to be carefull who you cum across charlotte I can't believe you posted that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
how_supra Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 Ever ask a woman for directions? Well thats a myth that all women can't navigate. My brother is awful, he'd get lost going up stairs. He can't drive so that may have something to do with it though. [27 and can't drive...........] /vbb/images/smilies/bbcode_shock.gif But the point is he's probably alot worse than all of the women on this site for example. Charlotte, I sometimes scare myself as well, usually just as I'm getting into my house, putting the key in the door, I sometimes think someone is going to grab me - which is really stupid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bill Prawn Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 So on the way back Mike (the nice boyfriend that he is) decided he wanted a random Chinese so he went one way i went the other. I think it's all Mike's fault for leaving you to walk home alone;) And what is a random Chinese anyway? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 Again, the caveman.......... Men needed to be able to judge distance and direction to be able to hunt properly and find their way home. Statistically, men can judge speed and distance far better than women. This falls down though, women are subconciously aware of that difference and are therefore more cautious. If the blokes were too cautious then the cavebirds would never have eaten as the blokes would never have taken the risk. This is why women pay less insurance, they are more cautious and therefore have fewer accidents. Blokes are better at distance judging but say "sod it" and pull out anyway. Men will instinctively know the rough direction of home wheras women need a more literal direction. I'm sure I have a paper on that somewhere as well lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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