Pulley Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 My life's direction is always influx and I'm never quite sure if I'm going in the direction I'm supposed to, or the "best" way forewards I just play it by-ear and try to be the best person I can be My life of being a manic depressive wreck got turned around after I lost a few very close friends to cancer, and when I worked for a riding school giving disabled and terminally ill kids lessons to ride and have fun on ponies, this was the jolt in my life that turned my manic depression bouts into pushing myself to remain positive I'm kinda "winging it" my whole life After all, life's too short to be too serious Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tooquicktostop Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 I spent many many years chasing a career and big salary with some success, however I definitely forgot that you only live once and you have to enjoy the time you have, sometimes this means earning less but enjoying more time with loved ones or the things you love, I am in a far more conservative lifestyle now but content as I can be, it is not healthy to compare yourself to those around you, very often the thing you envy is hiding the real truth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alex_GT Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 There are places you can turn to Alex (for more specialised help) if you need any suggestions get in touch. Anger is one of those things that can easily spiral, aside from help with your mental health boxing/the gym can be good ways of getting rid of built up aggression. It's very easy to be angry with the world at the moment, five minutes watching the news or social media will do that. I actually don't use any form of social media, the things I get angry about seem to be immediately around me, like work for example. Even when I am not consciously thinking about something that makes me angry, I can feel it inside almost like a panic attack, it's hard to describe. I don't really have anyone to talk to about problems, which I think in some ways is a good thing as talking about my problems seems to bring on the panic attack symptoms. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Style Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 Sounds like one way of dealing with things life throws your way, excellent if it works for you I like to think it does, it's the simplest way to look at it imo My girlfriend was diagnosed with bowel cancer at the beginning of last year....she was 24 at the time. Thankfully, by October and after various examinations, 3 big operations, a temporary colostomy, ileostomy, weeks of chemotherapy, radiotherapy and sleepless, painful days and nights she was given the all clear. Unfortunately we can't have kids due to the effects of her therapy treatments but what's important is that she's alive and that horrendous disease is no longer a part of her. First thing we both wanted to do at the beginning was just curl up into a ball and call it a day. It was hard not to at times. But my old man has always said for as long as I can remember..."adapt and overcome". It was something he mainly said when working on cars went to pot but also emphasised that it applies to all walks. It seems to have stuck with me more than he could have probably imagined. We were dealt a stinker of a hand and I'm not ashamed to say I shed many tears over the last 18 months but we got through it by, in the simplest way, taking each day by those quotes. I hadn't seen many of my mates for a long time until recently. I got to go on my first (and definitely not last ) Dragonball this year and it was one of the first times id had time to myself for a long while. But finally the missus is nearing full strength again and she can get back to work after all this time. So what had started as a look ahead full of ambition and life goals, is now just 2 people thankful that our asses are still facing south after all we've been through the whole ordeal changed my perspective a lot. I'm now happy with getting by and having money to spend on the Supra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pudsey Posted September 3, 2016 Author Share Posted September 3, 2016 Everyone figures it out someday, you've just got to plough through and hope it's sooner rather than later. Yes exactly, the million dollar answer to the question I guess. I'm kinda "winging it" my whole life After all, life's too short to be too serious Another great one Mark, I like your philosophy made me laugh it is not healthy to compare yourself to those around you, very often the thing you envy is hiding the real truth Again very good post that, I personally don't compare myself, but many do to there detriment eventually tends to breed either ultimate success for the very few, or disaster for the majority of never being content. panic attack symptoms. Yes, that's not a very nice condition to be cursed with, and you definitely need some help to eventually cure the occurrences. I'm now happy with getting by and having money to spend on the Supra Cricky that is a very difficult time you have both been through, both of you families to I would imagine. Glad things are getting better though, and there was an eventual silver lining to the situation. Well to some degree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pudsey Posted September 3, 2016 Author Share Posted September 3, 2016 I kinda had a feeling my post may spark some emotional responses, but didn't really expect to hear the trials, tribulations, and down right hard times so many have experienced. Just goes to show everyone's got a story worth telling, I just hope other people have maybe also found it as useful as me to perhaps reinvigorate, renew the lust for those forgotten passions people once had. The sun shall be shining tomorrow me thinks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SupraAyf Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 I spent many many years chasing a career and big salary with some success, however I definitely forgot that you only live once and you have to enjoy the time you have, sometimes this means earning less but enjoying more time with loved ones or the things you love, I am in a far more conservative lifestyle now but content as I can be, it is not healthy to compare yourself to those around you, very often the thing you envy is hiding the real truth It's funny you should say that Dean as my wife and I are in the exact same dilemma. We've spent our whole life on building a successful business and yet all we want now is to sell everything and live a more simple life. It's nice to be successful but what happens when you get there eh. We have friends who live hand-to-mouth and yet they are far more happier than we are currently. The simple things are the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abz Posted September 3, 2016 Share Posted September 3, 2016 I think I have learned over the last 14 years of my working life is that no matter how much more you earn you still will not be more happier. You'll always spend the extra you earn, bigger house, new cars, kids etc. IMO I find content in helping to people. Wether it is at work in achieving a common goal, or in the varies charities I am involved in. As some of you know I do a fair bit of voleentering on mentoring young kids, it's my goal to help someone for the better, that's my satisfaction in life. If I have helped one person get off the bad track I have done my duty in this life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Action Jackson Posted September 5, 2016 Share Posted September 5, 2016 Love this thread. It is something that comes up in my head often. I'm a "thinker" when it comes down to it and spend a lot of time in my own thoughts trying to work things out. I actually had quite an odd existential crisis when I was about 10 - family problems happened and somehow I ended up picking up a large chunk of the slack around the house alongside school (shopping, cleaning, scheduling paying the bills (not with my money obviously I was 10!) etc). From then on I have always tried to keep a positive perspective on life, because I decided quite quickly after doing a lot of research (again, I was 10, so a simple answer is the best answer) that there is no point or destiny in our lives. We make our own purpose - its up to you to decide what is important and what is not. I have family members who are mad rich, and other family members who have scraped by every week for the last 40 years. Some are happy, some are sad - the money or magnitude of achievements doesn't correlate with how happy they are. I count myself as very fortunate as I have had an incredible life so far and have plenty of time left (hopefully) at the age of 24. I have no idea what tomorrow holds, and to be completely honest, I don't care. All I know is i'm happy right now, and have provisions for me to be happy for the foreseeable future - that, to me, is the most important thing. It sounds selfish at first, you know "what about your wife" etc - but her happiness is a strong key to my happiness. Seeing others smile and be gleeful makes me smile too, so really i'm just living like everyone else, seeking enjoyment from every possible avenue. When people ask me "what is your life goal" my response is always "as long as i'm lowered into the ground with a smile on my face, then I have won". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pudsey Posted September 5, 2016 Author Share Posted September 5, 2016 The simple things are the best. I also have to fully agree with that one, cup of tea and beans on toast and I'm a happy man If I have helped one person get off the bad track I have done my duty in this life. Sounds awesome, I'm glad you managed to actually do something that improves other people's happiness while also improving yours. Good stuff indeed When people ask me "what is your life goal" my response is always "as long as i'm lowered into the ground with a smile on my face, then I have won". Ha I like that. Glad you have found it an interesting read so far, and as a side I to have found myself head of the family at a young age too. So perhaps this brings us to thinking more about our situations or just general pondering more than the average Joe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nodalmighty Posted September 5, 2016 Share Posted September 5, 2016 After diabetes, cancer, Leukaemia, Heart attacks and Hyperthyroid I'm just glad to be alive TBH. However, I still have hopes of driving the supra again at some point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pudsey Posted September 5, 2016 Author Share Posted September 5, 2016 After diabetes, cancer, Leukaemia, Heart attacks and Hyperthyroid I'm just glad to be alive TBH. However, I still have hopes of driving the supra again at some point. If you have managed to get through all of that, then I'm sure your dreams of driving a supra again will come true. All the very best with everything, that goes without saying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evinX Posted September 10, 2016 Share Posted September 10, 2016 My feelings were down a couple of years back, really down. Down to the point i had to go doctors and got diagnosed with the Underactive thyroid which has been a tough 2 year battle getting back to normality :/ Since that predicament happened things have gone near enough back to normal, im happy at work, happy with things i have, home life is good so over all things are fine, its what we make of it. I find that you get down when you LET things take you over, anything that can be. Beginning of the year wasnt so nice, the Supra just swamped me with problems and ive gotten past it all now and have other things to turn my attention to. Only thing that really bothers me is my weight so i joined the gym again to sort that and the verruca ive had for over a year All these little sh!ts have been bugging me along with my teeth and im happy im getting ontop of it, like Raven said you just gota ride it out. Those have been my latest gremlins for a while. My goals as a child was to become a Pilot, i drive a Supra so that somewhat compensates for wanting to be in control of a massive machine in the sky :D My next goal tho will be a house with a home for my Supra. Thatll be a fun rest of my life but has to be done Somewhat bothered about people always concerned about me being single, Its as if im expected to take the next any girl that comes along?!!! Im very confident ive had a fair share of experiences in life so far at age 26, alot of good and alot of bad, its all good and im still here. Its just opened up my eyes towards life which is a positive. Lifes alrite though im in no rush and in competition with no one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPG Posted September 11, 2016 Share Posted September 11, 2016 I was fairly certain of what I wanted as I was growing up, but life has a funny way of deviating from the garden path . Can't really complain, I have my health and am surrounded by family, my wife puts up with my Supra shenanigans, and we've been blessed with our Son, so no need for an apprentice . No I didn't retire at 30, and I don't have a see through living room floor to look down on my 2000gt, but I'm fairly happy with the hand I've been dealt . One thing I've learned, is that no matter what you have or how important you think you've become, there's always going to be someone who's got something better or is more important. It's up to you whether you let that bother you or not Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brassbones Posted September 11, 2016 Share Posted September 11, 2016 One thing I've learned, is that no matter what you have or how important you think you've become, there's always going to be someone who's got something better or is more important. It's up to you whether you let that bother you or not Bang on! This is a very important point in terms of dealing with unfulfilled/unrealistic/pointless aspirations. It is largely a question of your own perception and perspective. That guy with the mansion and garage full of supercars may well be stressed to f*ck ... and have a string of failed friendships and relationships behind him ... because he thinks people only want him for his cash. So all he has for company is fellow stresshead money men and various hangers on. Having nice objects (like Supra's ) can certainly brighten your life but without health (mental and physical), good friends and strong family they are totally worthless. Nobody ever said on their deathbed "I wish I'd worked harder" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pudsey Posted September 12, 2016 Author Share Posted September 12, 2016 Very good read guys, been away for a sort while. I'm sure plenty are finding this useful Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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