Pondering life, expectations, achievements, destiny.

[Pudsey]

Hi all,

 

After sustaining a nasty yet unknown injury in work, I find myself pondering life in general this morning.

 

My aspirations growing up, interests, what I have achieved, and where ultimately life is leading me.

 

I have always had high expectations, desires to do great things, but already find that life has perhaps eroded my enthusiasm.

 

Maybe eroded is the wrong termanology, but general life has clouded my once absolute focus on progression and achievement.

 

This may sound deep to some, but just thought I would put it out there and perhaps revive other people's forgotten goals in life.

 

After all as far as anyone knows to date, we are only around once and need to make things count.

 

Thoughts, experiences, general feelings anyone?

[Axl]

Expectations I have none this means I shouldn't be disappointed

Achievements if I can find my razor today I'll be chuffed I'm starting to look like grizzly Adams

Destiny who knows?????

But as far as pondering life goes if I can surround myself with family and friends every day then I believe that makes me the richest man alive

[Pudsey]

Expectations I have none this means I shouldn't be disappointed

Achievements if I can find my razor today I'll be chuffed I'm starting to look like grizzly Adams

Destiny who knows?????

But as far as pondering life goes if I can surround myself with family and friends every day then I believe that makes me the richest man alive

 

Ha great post.

 

[mellonman]

Expectations I have none this means I shouldn't be disappointed

Achievements if I can find my razor today I'll be chuffed I'm starting to look like grizzly Adams

Destiny who knows?????

But as far as pondering life goes if I can surround myself with family and friends every day then I believe that makes me the richest man alive

 

Very well said!

Every grey cloud has a silver lining, its the way you look at it .lets say getting caught speeding massive fine and 6 points ! Terrible and the end of the world to someone in the wrong frame of mind but!!! The flip side is its lucky you got caught speeding because you was about to crash and kill a mother and child how would you have felt then?

This principle can be applied to almost every situation ! Dont look for the bad from something but the good and opportunities that can come from it and life becomes a hole lot easier . Positive thoughts lead to happy life

[Pudsey]

Yes, big believer in a positive mental attitude, and all the fluff that goes with it.

 

Reality checks are a great way to achieving prospective, as I recently met some very unfortunate people in hospital recently.

[Annabella]

Expectations? Intended to have my racing licence by 40, that's passed! But have a supra and did a track day recently so getting there. Family situation changes goals etc. Sometimes you just have to go in a different direction to achieve something near your desires. Keep the chin up.

[peter richards]

money isnt everything if your health is good then thats great . you could have millions and be dead . so make the most of what youve got, and be happy ,

[ManwithSupra]

Expectations - Its good to have a goal, but don't let that goal flood other important things like life, family and love out of your life, you will only be able achieve your expectations with those other three helping you along

Achievements - It depends how you you measure achievement, I personally look at failure as an achievement.. everything you do whether you succeed or fail there are positives you can take which can help you with your expectations.

Destiny - No one knows whats going to happen tomorrow, there is no point in pondering destiny, have a direction a goal as mentioned in Expectations and try to measure your future destiny by your achievements, however as no one has no idea what will happen in the future so its best to carry on as you plan to.

[mellonman]

Bear grylls puts it nicely in regards to goals , have lots of very small achievable goals that way when you succeed them its lots of wins and keeps you motivated.

[Pudsey]

Thanks ladies and gents, I just wondered if anyone else was thinking about the type of things.

 

I think I will set my first challenge as being able to tie my shoe laces again

[Scooter]

There are often times when we naturally reflect on things, a guy I used to go to school with is a now proper judge, another I saw is a BBC correspondent, another a successful author. Sometimes makes you question what you've done, should you have done more, tried harder etc etc, but you need to sit back and smell the roses sometimes and there is always something to be happy for. I'm happy for them and to be honest pretty content myself, I've got two Supra's and some people that love me and very few if any that hate me!.....in my head I've made it!

 

Hope whatever has happened to you, you can get through it asap

[Pudsey]

There are often times when we naturally reflect on things, a guy I used to go to school with is a now proper judge, another I saw is a BBC correspondent, another a successful author. Sometimes makes you question what you've done, should you have done more, tried harder etc etc, but you need to sit back and smell the roses sometimes and there is always something to be happy for. I'm happy for them and to be honest pretty content myself, I've got two Supra's and some people that love me and very few if any that hate me!.....in my head I've made it!

 

Hope whatever has happened to you, you can get through it asap

 

Cheers buddy,

 

I'm sure I will be alright, a lot of people worse off than me in life.

 

Just one of those wet, rainy days, when i can do nothing other than spend the day lying down looking out the window.

 

Not after sympathy at all, just wondered if other people often reflect on where life's heading with any serious thought.

 

Everyone's always so busy these days, and the important things in life maybe get over looked as your washed along with everyday life.

 

[Style]

"Life's simple, you make choices and you don't look back"

[cered]

I'm 26 so I'm in that stage of my life where I have no idea what's going on

 

I do worry that I'm not making enough money, not progressing fast enough etc. for example friends are earning about £30-70k a year and I'm on £22-23k working two jobs driving brand new nice cars and I have a Supra (which is epic but the third of the price of their cars - on finance i know but...). Gets a bit frustrating that I'm a few steps behind others which sucks.

 

On the other hand though I know there are people who are older who are perhaps worse off, for example I own a pretty good house, I have my dream car on the drive, I don't have much money for nice things like holidays or buying brand new £1500 sofas say but I live comfortably without much worry about money.

 

I have started looking at jobs in my field that are better paying, I work in It for a big company but the pay is terrible for the work I do but I think most people feel that way.

 

So far I'm hoping through my positive actions stuff will eventually sort itself out. like things can change really quickly, e.g. OP you may get a new job next year that pays double what you earn now, or you find a new sport that you excel at even with the injury etc. Just keep having a life, don't be the person who dies before they're 30 and doesn't get buried until they're 70+

[The Raven]

I had plans, i had goals.....However life went in a direction i never expected when my son was born with the issues he has. My thread here is full of deep dark days when i was all but ready to curl into a ball and give up. Everything i had planned to do from, teaching him to drive to taking him to football to even being able to have a conversation with him was gone. Work wise his care has to come first so my old job wasn't going to work anymore.

 

However its changed my life somewhat for the better, i now work with disabled adults help out at special needs nursery. Sure the money is awful but i its worth it for a good day or teaching someone to sign or use an ipad is the most amazing feeling.

 

I guess what im trying to say is even when it seems like its all going wrong, sometimes its going right but you have to ride it out.

[Pudsey]

"Life's simple, you make choices and you don't look back"

 

Sounds like one way of dealing with things life throws your way, excellent if it works for you

 

I'm 26 so I'm in that stage of my life where I have no idea what's going on

 

Just keep having a life, don't be the person who dies before they're 30 and doesn't get buried until they're 70+

 

Sounds like your doing all the right things to me, and I like the last line you wrote never heard that one before.

 

I had plans, i had goals.....However life went in a direction i never expected when my son was born with the issues he has. My thread here is full of deep dark days when i was all but ready to curl into a ball and give up. Everything i had planned to do from, teaching him to drive to taking him to football to even being able to have a conversation with him was gone. Work wise his care has to come first so my old job wasn't going to work anymore.

 

However its changed my life somewhat for the better, i now work with disabled adults help out at special needs nursery. Sure the money is awful but i its worth it for a good day or teaching someone to sign or use an ipad is the most amazing feeling.

 

I guess what im trying to say is even when it seems like its all going wrong, sometimes its going right but you have to ride it out.

 

That really sucks indeed, and can appreciate how the happiest time of your life has turned out to be very difficult although rewarding all the same.

 

It's great that you have managed to adapt, and they do say gaining enjoyment from what you do in work really makes a huge difference.

 

I guess us guys aren't great at talking about things most of the time.

 

Some great replies gents

[Dim Sum]

Where i am in life right now. I am content, i have a wife and a 4 month old baby and my own house. I really can't ask for more.

 

Be content with what you have. Then maybe you realised you are better than you thought.

 

Having goals is good but dont beat yourself over it if you don't achieve it

[Pudsey]

Where i am in life right now. I am content, i have a wife and a 4 month old baby and my own house. I really can't ask for more.

 

Be content with what you have. Then maybe you realised you are better than you thought.

 

Having goals is good but dont beat yourself over it if you don't achieve it

 

Congratulations on the little one, I bet that's a life changer in itself.

 

I was more thinking it's funny where we all end up, even though I am sure we all had or have grand plans.

 

Yes quiet agree you simply got to be happy in your own skin, as no one else's will fit properly

[brassbones]

My life was rolling along on oiled wheels up until 5 months ago when my wife told me out of the blue she wanted a divorce and was moving to London. I had made the mistake of easing back to a 3 day week and a bit of self-employment income as she was a mega earner. Now I am suddenly thrust back into the meat market (if and when I’m ready) and the harsh reality of running a house on my own, and living on my own. It seems to me that life is like a millpond for very long stretches and then a hurricane blows up. You have to hang on tight and pray that is passes quickly.

 

I got mk4 number 6 within weeks of her dropping the bomb to try and cheer myself up bit, which it does (sold no. 5 shortly after we got together 13 years back because it was “impractical”)

 

A few weeks after this happened to me my mate’s wife (who’s 35) found some lumps under her arm and it turned out to be stage 3 cancer that had spread. They have two very small children. Suddenly my “problems” seemed relatively trivial. I do my best to take my mate out for a beer as often as I can afford it. Its all I feel I can do to help.

 

Over these past 5 months my friends and family have been really supportive. It’s a shame we only really appreciate it when shit hits the fan, but really the people around you are ALL that matters. Not money, not trinkets, not holidays or promotions or 'status'… not even owning a supra! Good luck and thanks for posting.

[Pudsey]

My life was rolling along on oiled wheels up until 5 months ago when my wife told me out of the blue she wanted a divorce and was moving to London. I had made the mistake of easing back to a 3 day week and a bit of self-employment income as she was a mega earner. Now I am suddenly thrust back into the meat market (if and when I’m ready) and the harsh reality of running a house on my own, and living on my own. It seems to me that life is like a millpond for very long stretches and then a hurricane blows up. You have to hang on tight and pray that is passes quickly.

 

I got mk4 number 6 within weeks of her dropping the bomb to try and cheer myself up bit, which it does (sold no. 5 shortly after we got together 13 years back because it was “impractical”)

 

A few weeks after this happened to me my mate’s wife (who’s 35) found some lumps under her arm and it turned out to be stage 3 cancer that had spread. They have two very small children. Suddenly my “problems” seemed relatively trivial. I do my best to take my mate out for a beer as often as I can afford it. Its all I feel I can do to help.

 

Over these past 5 months my friends and family have been really supportive. It’s a shame we only really appreciate it when $#@! hits the fan, but really the people around you are ALL that matters. Not money, not trinkets, not holidays or promotions or 'status'… not even owning a supra! Good luck and thanks for posting.

 

Yeah just when you think it can't get any worse, someone else kicks you in the balls just for good measure.

 

Again awful set of circumstances, but I am sure you will pull through it.

 

Some great advice provided there buddy.

 

I hope the next few months turn out to be better than the last for you

[Kendo11]

Hi all,

 

After sustaining a nasty yet unknown injury in work, I find myself pondering life in general this morning.

 

My aspirations growing up, interests, what I have achieved, and where ultimately life is leading me.

 

I have always had high expectations, desires to do great things, but already find that life has perhaps eroded my enthusiasm.

 

Maybe eroded is the wrong termanology, but general life has clouded my once absolute focus on progression and achievement.

 

This may sound deep to some, but just thought I would put it out there and perhaps revive other people's forgotten goals in life.

 

After all as far as anyone knows to date, we are only around once and need to make things count.

 

Thoughts, experiences, general feelings anyone?

 

If it helps, you're not on your own.

 

I've felt like that for years.

 

I'm 32 and have no more of an idea of what I want to do in my life (and what I want from life) than I did when I was 18.

[Alex_GT]

Apart from the Supra, I don't have anything in life. No home, no partner, no career. I left school at 17 and since then I haven't made any real progress whatsoever, I've been made redundant 3 times and been fired once, and I might be getting replaced at my current job.

 

My mental health seems to have gone downhill the last 12 months, I feel angry a lot of the time but don't have a way to release it.

[formatzero]

Get a partner,have five children who give you five grandchildren and you will never need to worry about where life is going cos believe me bud you won't have time for deep thinking:d

[Pudsey]

If it helps, you're not on your own.

 

I've felt like that for years.

 

I'm 32 and have no more of an idea of what I want to do in my life (and what I want from life) than I did when I was 18.

 

I kinda knew I wouldn't be on my own, but just wondered what people were doing for inspiration to improve situations.

 

Apart from the Supra, I don't have anything in life. No home, no partner, no career. I left school at 17 and since then I haven't made any real progress whatsoever, I've been made redundant 3 times and been fired once, and I might be getting replaced at my current job.

 

My mental health seems to have gone downhill the last 12 months, I feel angry a lot of the time but don't have a way to release it.

 

Talking about things helps without a shadow of a doubt.

 

Sounds very much like you have had a very tough time, and you want to look after yourself buddy.

 

Your not alone

 

Get a partner,have five children who give you five grandchildren and you will never need to worry about where life is going cos believe me bud you won't have time for deep thinking:d

 

Ha yeah, I can imagine your ass barely gets to touch a seat before you have to get back up.

 

[Kendo11]

Apart from the Supra, I don't have anything in life. No home, no partner, no career. I left school at 17 and since then I haven't made any real progress whatsoever, I've been made redundant 3 times and been fired once, and I might be getting replaced at my current job.

 

My mental health seems to have gone downhill the last 12 months, I feel angry a lot of the time but don't have a way to release it.

 

There are places you can turn to Alex (for more specialised help) if you need any suggestions get in touch. Anger is one of those things that can easily spiral, aside from help with your mental health boxing/the gym can be good ways of getting rid of built up aggression.

 

It's very easy to be angry with the world at the moment, five minutes watching the news or social media will do that.

 

I kinda knew I wouldn't be on my own, but just wondered what people were doing for inspiration to improve situations.

 

Difficult question.

 

Some people seem to have it all mapped out or can comfortably cruise through life facing the worst problems with ease.

 

I (same goes for others I'm sure) have a lot of demons that tend to take my time/energy away from doing what I'm capable of or figuring out what I want to do, as opposed to working a mind numbing job and having no aspirations and hating all people in general.

 

Everyone figures it out someday, you've just got to plough through and hope it's sooner rather than later.