Max5437 Posted November 19, 2015 Author Share Posted November 19, 2015 Thank you, that's very kind of you, you are absolutely right, and I think it's helped to hear that, no amount of sitting on my arse will get me where I want to be and think I needed a reality kick and that's helped, I'll order that book and be sure to drop you a pm if I could do with some advice, if you don't mind me asking what is it you do? In all honesty I hate studying most of the subjects I do as they aren't a challenge but i love to work as it keeps my brain busy which is most certainly isn't at the moment so trying to start up a Buisness would be a big help. I have 90% of the bits I need already to do valeting so why the hell not. Thank you, investing in myself will be a much better use of time than sitting around depressed about how shit things are going Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dim Sum Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 Max do you have my number still? If you are heading down the valeting route drop me a message and see if I can help you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 19, 2015 Author Share Posted November 19, 2015 Yeah I do, dropped you a text mate thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 Max. Avoid your ex like the plague, do not answer any calls. The more you move away, the more she will want you back and then you are back to square one, having an insane bitch on your arm. Have a Lemsip and a wank and put it all down to bitter experience. You may also want to just use and abuse some women to make yourself feel better...!! H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 I won't be answering a call from her again that's for certain, everyone told me you can't be nice in a breakup and I was too stupid to listen. She's dead to me and she's going to stay that way, yeah the memories hurt now but they will fade and your correct, put down to bitter experience, going out next weekend for my birthday so at least that will be a weekend I won't be able to remember [emoji106] is much needed ! I don't think I could bring myself to do that as much as I would like too, but saying that being nice has got me in enough trouble so who knows what next weekend will bring Thank you Harvard interesting advice and would love to give it a go if I get the chance Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imi Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Good luck to you I do find it surprising that knowing what you know about her you put your job at risk.....bizarre. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imi Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Max do you have my number still? If you are heading down the valeting route drop me a message and see if I can help you perhaps the guy can do with a night out in town.......building on havard's suggestion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 Simply down to stupidity and the expectation of a little respect, I'm more pissed at myself for letting her push my buttons again but can't change what's happened and just working on damage reduction now And well my few mates that remain are coming out for my birthday so night on the town is the plan, first time for everything so what's the worse that can happen [emoji108] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TT Paul Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Dude some deep shit in your threads. Reminds me of a story a guy from sse just come out a messey divorce. Met a bird a yr after Spent 2k on her sons cars bikes etc 10k on her house Then it went south she would get his pants from laundry basket put hand cream in them place them back. Then when he comes home pull them out accuse him of cheating. He then needed to see a doc as it fucked him up.. how it went after god knows. But just get on with your life. Make yourself happyness your priority. Get your head straight bud the rest will follow As its your first relationship it will hurt that bit more when i split from mine spent 6mths trying to recover it. Move on and you'll be fine im sure now go get a lemsip as H said lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 Dude some deep shit in your threads. Reminds me of a story a guy from sse just come out a messey divorce. Met a bird a yr after Spent 2k on her sons cars bikes etc 10k on her house Then it went south she would get his pants from laundry basket put hand cream in them place them back. Then when he comes home pull them out accuse him of cheating. He then needed to see a doc as it fucked him up.. how it went after god knows. But just get on with your life. Make yourself happyness your priority. Get your head straight bud the rest will follow As its your first relationship it will hurt that bit more when i split from mine spent 6mths trying to recover it. Move on and you'll be fine im sure now go get a lemsip as H said lol. Sounds like the kind of psycho crap that she would have done to me tbh, shes said numerous times how i have cheated and how parts of this have been revenge for me cheating on her with the mate mentioned in the other thread, that would never ever happen for 2 key reasons, 1) had a hundred chances to get with her previous to meeting K and there just has never been that interest, great friend but nothing more. and 2) i despise cheaters personally after it happening to my sister on numerous occasions and seeing the damage done, i couldn't condone doing that to someone but dealing with a headcase is never logical. To be fair I'dealing with it a lot better since she did that as 99% of the time i hate her guts but its the late night 1% thoughts that are the struggle. i feel ready to move on with my life which is nice and have to speak to the college shrink women as i royally cocked up my coursework and handed in a jumbled mess of old and new work so have been accused of plagiarism but hopefully it will be resolved without a fuss, head was over the place a bit so another silly mistake like the one that led to the whole scenario in this thread. got plenty of good things to focus on, plenty of coursework, looking at going into valeting part time and making good progress in the gym so slowly but steadily getting over it all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TT Paul Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Good at least your going forward bud. Not a 5 min job but you have things to do and at times you will have draw backs only being human. Get your valeting going i'm sure you'll clean up. And Just build your pecks up i'm getting a beer gut so i think women prefer beer guts so im told. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 Good at least your going forward bud. Not a 5 min job but you have things to do and at times you will have draw backs only being human. Get your valeting going i'm sure you'll clean up. And Just build your pecks up i'm getting a beer gut so i think women prefer beer guts so im told. Yeah exactly, its more late at night its difficult as i stayed at hers every night for the past 9 months so big adjustment to have no one there, no one saying goodnight too, all that relationship crap, it got far to intense far to quickly so its hard breaking the habits. half the time i wake up in the night and freak out wondering where she has gone then wake up properly and feel like crap about the whole thing but yeah on wards and upwards, liking the pun lol ah see chest is my problem area due to damaging my rotator cuff a few years back but its okay im happy to change my diet to get a gut if that's what the ladies like Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abz Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 It's finding another job that's the issue at the moment, I have been looking but no one local is hiring and that's what worries me, I am just a number to them and it's only the fact she has been banned before I'm hoping I get some leniency and she was openly abusive to the store manager too, she was a Vile piece of work when she was fired bit again like you say I'm just a number to them. It's definitely been a learning curve the past few months and there's no worry about her contacting me, as soon as I heard her voice it would be hung up and blocked. Change your number, then you don't have to worry about who is calling you on blocked number It might sounds harsh but as much as blaming her, you are at fault here too. Now don't take this the wrong way, but you need to stop thinking that meeting her for 'closure' is going to work or talking even. As it seems for some reason reading the threads, she has done so much to you but you for some reason deep down you hope she will change. She will not change and she is vile, just blocking her number will not help, you'll have to be active about it and if she wants to talk or meet or whatever reason you need to ignore/block and not give her an ounce of your time or thoughts. Don't worry about the job, it sounds if anything that if this place reminds you of her then you need to get a new job, as simple as that. You are young, some girls will do this but you don't need to hide under a rock because of this. You learned a valuable lesson and got away with it, now live your life man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 I did want her to change but after the responses on here along with what happened and giving time to think I am so much better of without her and have no wish to ever get in a situation like that again, I know I made things worse and feel stupid for doing so but can honestly say that as each day goes past I care Less and less and the amount of negative comments made about her by people who didn't even know her or know me and are impartial each comment makes me realise more and more what an idiot I was and how especially how the events detailed in this thread were a huge massive mistake on my part and I have to accept the consequences for being so stupid and for not listening to the advice I got on here. I am looking for a new job but can't really afford to lose the current one until I have something new set up. It has been an experience to say the least lol not quite ready to get back out there but saying that wasn't really out there when I met her. Just going to focus on me, hopefully get a bit of personal business set up and try and go back to how I was before all this happened. I feel like I lost a lot of my motivation and my maturity and it's shows in how my life is now so that needs to be my priority. Would be great to meet some of the members who've helped out, definitely owe a drink or two Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abz Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 I did want her to change but after the responses on here along with what happened and giving time to think I am so much better of without her and have no wish to ever get in a situation like that again, I know I made things worse and feel stupid for doing so but can honestly say that as each day goes past I care Less and less and the amount of negative comments made about her by people who didn't even know her or know me and are impartial each comment makes me realise more and more what an idiot I was and how especially how the events detailed in this thread were a huge massive mistake on my part and I have to accept the consequences for being so stupid and for not listening to the advice I got on here. I am looking for a new job but can't really afford to lose the current one until I have something new set up. It has been an experience to say the least lol not quite ready to get back out there but saying that wasn't really out there when I met her. Just going to focus on me, hopefully get a bit of personal business set up and try and go back to how I was before all this happened. I feel like I lost a lot of my motivation and my maturity and it's shows in how my life is now so that needs to be my priority. Would be great to meet some of the members who've helped out, definitely owe a drink or two You don't owe us anything, we are a bunch of like minded folks we plenty of different life experiences, so don't kick yourself down and call yourself an idiot. You would only be an idiot if you tried to retain a relationship with her and think it will be fine going forward in future. Don't worry about telling people who she really is, you do not need to warn anyone about her, if anything the less to do with her then the better. Good luck on the job hunt, you'll find somewhere soon enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ellis Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 For future reference, please use this Woman Gauge that I've created: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooter Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 I think that gauge is broke......never seen one down that low? some more useful insight https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMxZEXjZr4E Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattdavies Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Please also refer to this : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjZIPClPR6I Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooter Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 great minds think alike! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TT Paul Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Well abz if you don't want to take a drink from max i'll have yours. But im not keen on shandy .. On the plus side at least you had a chance to get this off your chest. When i moved out the first few nites were abit weird you'll get round it. On the plus side. You can fart in bed with no complaints Have the bed to yourself No one moaning about snoring Lay in. Hog the duvet. These are things i now get grief over but waking the gf up with a fart priceless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 You don't owe us anything, we are a bunch of like minded folks we plenty of different life experiences, so don't kick yourself down and call yourself an idiot. You would only be an idiot if you tried to retain a relationship with her and think it will be fine going forward in future. Don't worry about telling people who she really is, you do not need to warn anyone about her, if anything the less to do with her then the better. Good luck on the job hunt, you'll find somewhere soon enough. it was pretty stupid looking back, a lot of it was very stupid but at least its all behind me now thank god! As far as i'm concerned she dosent exist, the girl i fell for all those months ago disappeared a long time ago and there's no point being hung up on something i had no control over in the first place. that girl is gone and that shell containing a bitch is all that remains. better off without her at all and will just ignore her if i have the misfortune of running into her again, thankfully she lives in a different town so very little chance of seeing her cheers mate For future reference, please use this Woman Gauge that I've created: http://i289.photobucket.com/albums/ll206/ellisgrange/Woman%20Gauge_zpsjhvf2f1b.jpg thats brilliant haha she was definelty on the bat shit crazy end of the scale I think that gauge is broke......never seen one down that low? some more useful insight https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMxZEXjZr4E Please also refer to this : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjZIPClPR6I cheers guys haha will watch them when i get home from college, youtube is blocking me for some absurd reason Well abz if you don't want to take a drink from max i'll have yours. But im not keen on shandy .. On the plus side at least you had a chance to get this off your chest. When i moved out the first few nites were abit weird you'll get round it. On the plus side. You can fart in bed with no complaints Have the bed to yourself No one moaning about snoring Lay in. Hog the duvet. These are things i now get grief over but waking the gf up with a fart priceless. well if i make it to some of the events like JAE ill be sure to bring some drinks Have to agree, its nice to get it all out there and to feel less alone about the whole situation, the community on here has been great with the whole thing even though i don't know really know anyone that well. yeah the freedom is nice, wouldn't ever rush into a relationship again, got with her before i got to really know her so that was a valid lesson learned. haha who knows maybe one day ill find someone who can at least fake an interest in cars lol cheers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sideexitsupra Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 haha who knows maybe one day ill find someone who can at least fake an interest in cars lol cheers Good luck with that one... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max5437 Posted November 20, 2015 Author Share Posted November 20, 2015 Good luck with that one... Maybe asking a bit much, maybe one who is only on the psychopath part of the scale above Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SupraStar 3000 Posted November 22, 2015 Share Posted November 22, 2015 A good woman is like bread dough. You should be able to mould her into whatever personality you like, and have whatever interests you like. If that doesn't work, bang her in the oven and slice her up. Having read your threads, and having been in a similar situation, my advice is get yourself on some specialist websites and go on a massive dating mission. You'll soon build up your confidence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SupraP-Z Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 Everything happens for a reason my friend, as numerous people have said and im sure youve taken it on board, you should take this as a lesson in life. Use this experience to teach you exactly what you dont want and need in life from people whether it be friends, random people, even family. I went through a lot of hardship in my previous relationships, and the best thing i ever did was to forget they even existed. I felt myself falling in the same trap when i got into a relationship with someone id known for a long time..patterns emerged but i ignored them - games were played, hearts were broken. Call it fate and my phone decided to pack up, thank god for my laziness, i lived like a caveman for a month with no connection to anyone apart from very close friends, actually helped me get back up onto my feet and focus on doing things that i wanted rather than wonder what if, and why and all that crap. Concentrate on what you need in life, not what you want, otherwise your wandering mind will link into the thing you are the most used to thinking off - change that pattern and you will become so much at better at dealing with things. Use the things you love doing as an outlet, go out meet new people, chill out with friends, work on the supra and concentrate on a career path - cant emphasise that enough Good luck, its only upwards from here. Also even if you do get fired from tesco, try something different. My mate has been unemployed for about 5 years, only recently he has managed to get himself a job at the NHS in accounts department even though he lacks any kind of experience. Its possible, just dont give up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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