Benjy Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 After a bit of advice, as for once I'm being a grown up and fighting the urge to lose my sh!t... Today, my wife had a doctors appointment, and booked it for around 4pm not realising my eldest was booked in an after school club that finished at the same time as her appointment. Rach has gotten friendly with another mum at the school, who kindly offered to collect my 7 year old for her. As soon as Rach picked him up, little man pointed out that both he and his friend were collected from school not by the mum that'd offererd, but by her husband in a Transit Connect with 1 passenger seat. Apparently both boys were in the 1 seat. I'm absolutely fuming and fighting the urge to go and nut the idiot for putting not only my kid, but both kids in that kind of danger! I'm led to believe he sub-contracts to British Gas, (he wears their T-Shirts) but drives his own, unlivered vehicle. Who can I report it to? What can I do that won't get me locked up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris88 Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Do nothing is the best course of action. It's after the fact, you have nothing further to gain, and fortunately nothing serious happened. However you've already gained an appreciation that not all have the same safety standards (and common sense) as yourself and you can use this to help judge those that can be trusted in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Chill Ben, It may be worth a chat with him find out his side of the story. Was he stranded with no other choice, did he have contact numbers to contact you or your missus etc. Did his wife leave him in the lurch at the last minute? Either way it is not good. He may have had the choice to leave your kid at school or drive a mile illegally. I wouldn't be taking any chances with my own or other peoples kids though. If it turns out he is an ignorant cock, I have a long list of options for you. Not stuff I can post up obviously. H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjy Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 Chill Ben, It may be worth a chat with him find out his side of the story. Was he stranded with no other choice, did he have contact numbers to contact you or your missus etc. Did his wife leave him in the lurch at the last minute? Either way it is not good. He may have had the choice to leave your kid at school or drive a mile illegally. I wouldn't be taking any chances with my own or other peoples kids though. If it turns out he is an ignorant cock, I have a long list of options for you. Not stuff I can post up obviously. H. Rachel's seen him doing it with his 2 kids, one of which is about 3! She was under the illusion that it'd be the mum that went, but when Rachel got there, she was lazing on the sofa. When someone says "I'll pick him up for you..." You expect it to be the person that offers. If she'd said "I'll send my husband to go and pick him up for you..." Rach would have rung me instead. Which I wish she had. There is always someone at the school until 6pm, and they have both of our contact details, so even if it was a last minute thing that he had to go, he should have taken little man back in and told them he didn't have the room. Or taken the wife's car. Either way, he's a div and I shall be asking him about it. It boils my piss that people are so bloody stupid! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hogmaw Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Getting angry over two kids in a car seat? You need to lighten up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjy Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 Getting angry that my kid was allowed to travel 3 miles in the front of a vehicle with no seatbelt and in a seat designed for 2 adults, without a booster seat... Yes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spikedjack Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 put it down to bad experience and learn from it, not all will treat your kids as you do.... at that age i've traveled in the boot of an estate car let alone a seat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjy Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 Yeah, I know mate, I was too back in the day when you used to just lob the moses basket in the back seat. I just can't believe that someone these days can be so irresponsible with someone elses child. I wouldn't dream of doing it, and would expect a slap off their dad if I did! Different expectations and standards I suppose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gordy.r Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Getting angry that my kid was allowed to travel 3 miles in the front of a vehicle with no seatbelt and in a seat designed for 2 adults, without a booster seat... Yes. Must admit, I'd agree with Ben here. Ok, it's happened now and I'd put it down to a bad experience or judgement call, but I would still ask the guy why he found the need to jeopardise not only his own kids life, but more importantly, your kids life due to his poor planning or bad decision making. There may be a reason as mentioned above, as to why he felt the need to do it, but surely there would have been some other solution. Not only that, had he been stopped by the police there's the whole kids not in booster seats/car seats issue, no seat belt, is the van insured to carry children what with it possibly being a company van etc? Again, no point taking his head off his shoulders, but I'd want to know what his thought process was behind doing what he did, and obviously I wouldn't be taking up any offers in the future from them. Our kids are our number one priority in life, and not everyone treats your child how you may treat yours or even their child when in your care. Glad nothing happened and both kids are unharmed and less the wiser of the situation they were put in. We all know the chance of an accident is small, but it just takes one idiot driver etc and life changing circumstances will ensue, not even worth thinking about. Have a beer tonight and relax and see how you feel in the morning mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjy Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 We all know the chance of an accident is small, but it just takes one idiot driver etc and life changing circumstances will ensue, not even worth thinking about. Have a beer tonight and relax and see how you feel in the morning mate. Exactly that. Even somethint stupid like the woman the pulled out infront of me, literally 50 yards from my house, could potentially have flung him/them out of the seat. I've chilled out a bit now, but I've told the wife the only people that pick him up now are either one of us, my mum or sister or Rach's mum. And if he goes to anybody elses house after school, to just mention to the parents in a nice way "he will have a seat, a seatbelt and a booster seat if he needs one, won't he?" type of thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abtin90 Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Do nothing is the best course of action. It's after the fact, you have nothing further to gain, and fortunately nothing serious happened. However you've already gained an appreciation that not all have the same safety standards (and common sense) as yourself and you can use this to help judge those that can be trusted in the future. This. Some good advice in this thread, I'd just chill and avoid them from now on. I can understand your anger but it's really not worth it and I struggle to see what could be gained. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abz Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Put it down to experience mate, I wouldn't let anyone pick up my child unless I knew them properly so would know who would pick them up etc. Speculation is the mother of all... well you know what. Anyway, it's all your bloody fault for being too lazy to pick him up (see what I did there). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjy Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 Put it down to experience mate, I wouldn't let anyone pick up my child unless I knew them properly so would know who would pick them up etc. Speculation is the mother of all... well you know what. Anyway, it's all your bloody fault for being too lazy to pick him up (see what I did there). This is it Abz, my mrs is friends with this woman but thinks the husband's a bit of a div. If she'd known he was to be involved, we'd have sorted it one way or the other. I was wrestling with some lower arm bushes on a Mini at pick up time, I'd have loved nothing more than an excuse to down tools and get outta there!! Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignum Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 You lot are all to sensible, i`d send my bro round his house with a gallon of v-power and a match!, maybe abit ott, but honestly i would atleast be having words with him, some people need educating about the dangers, lets face it if no 1 tells him about it and he has a smash next week and his kid goes flying through the windscreen i`d feel bad really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abz Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 This is it Abz, my mrs is friends with this woman but thinks the husband's a bit of a div. If she'd known he was to be involved, we'd have sorted it one way or the other. I was wrestling with some lower arm bushes on a Mini at pick up time, I'd have loved nothing more than an excuse to down tools and get outta there!! Lol Totally understand, Rach will now know not to ask her again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjy Posted June 8, 2015 Author Share Posted June 8, 2015 You lot are all to sensible, i`d send my bro round his house with a gallon of v-power and a match!, maybe abit ott, but honestly i would atleast be having words with him, some people need educating about the dangers, lets face it if no 1 tells him about it and he has a smash next week and his kid goes flying through the windscreen i`d feel bad really. So where were you when I was ready to tear him a new bot bot earlier on!? I think I might have a quiet word with my neighbour who just so happens to be a copper. Of the traffic variety. Give him his reg number, and let him keep his eyes peeled around school times. That kind of advice I think would be more appreciated/acknowledged from someone who has the power to really ruin your day! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bignum Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Good call. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hitbox Junkie Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 This isn't madness this is SPARTA!! but seriously it is madness that he think its OK to do this :\ I think quiet words would be a good idea nothing to show him up or smash his face in it but just to let him know you think hes a div for doing what he did and he should have just dropped him at school and said to his misses to contact yourself's Good luck, glad everyone is ok though Ant Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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