TubbyTwo Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Well the last week has been an interesting one, falling out with the other halfs family and my GF getting disowned over something trivial. Basically my other half wants her dad and grandad to walk her down the isle, her dad will still do all the dad stuff, ride in the car make speaches etc but for a whole 15 seconds she wants her grandad to walk to the front then sit down. Is that too much to ask? he is special to her and isnt in the best health bless him. So this has caused huge ruptions as its not what her dad wants to do and now is saying she isnt is daughter and has humiliated the family..... Sorry whose day is it? Anyways we have now gone from getting married next year in august to getting married in 6 weeks as..... and she is not inviting or telling that side of the family, that will be fun..... PANIC!!!! :eek: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Westy Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Inlaws!lol! Sounds like trouble ahead though bud...good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TubbyTwo Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 Yep tell me about it..... everyone has to stick their boot in, luckily im resistant to their BS and my GF is more than worth it going to do a stealth wedding and not invite them, problem solved. Would love to see their faces when they find out! roll on the stress... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josh Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 They sound like a nightmare and also that seems quite childish to "disown" her for something she wants that doesn't even affect him. Give him a slap and tell him to chill out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamesy Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Sounds like a nightmare - weddings always cause a drama with the PC brigade - in really lucky my inlaws are shaaaweeeet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TubbyTwo Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 you cant reason with him, tried that, Its basically his way or they dont come. Fine with me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikeyb10supra Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 They sound like a nightmare and also that seems quite childish to "disown" her for something she wants that doesn't even affect him. My thoughts too, all sounds a bit pathetic. Hope it gets sorted mate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TubbyTwo Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 They sound like a nightmare and also that seems quite childish to "disown" her for something she wants that doesn't even affect him. Give him a slap and tell him to chill out. and thats the problem, he doesnt want to share 15 seconds of the day with an 83 year old man, its not what HE wants. No skin off my nose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josh Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 any thats the problem, he doesnt want to share 15 seconds of the day with an 83 year old man, its not what HE wants. No skin off my nose. Is her Granddad her Mum's Dad? I'm guessing he's not his. If he is, then that's even worse! (Try saying that quickly!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikeyb10supra Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 , its not what HE wants. stuff him them mate, its not his special day is it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TubbyTwo Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 Yep its her Mums dad, they split up years ago. He is jsut a childish bully that wants his own way. Not this time, our day he can do one!! Next thing is to find some nice person who wants to hire out their supra for a day and drive me to the venue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DodgyRog Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 We had all sorts of things happen in the lead up to and during our wedding day Jen has said a few times since, we should of saved all the money we spent on the wedding and got married abroad and had an even longer Honeymoon It's supposed to be your day, but family politics always come up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TubbyTwo Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 The Temptation to just vanish abroad and get married without anyone is huge. However we both want parents and grandparents there, and the old folks wont travel anymore Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 you cant reason with him, tried that, Its basically his way or they dont come. and thats the problem, he doesnt want to share 15 seconds of the day with an 83 year old man, its not what HE wants. No skin off my nose. It's your day mate and it should be on your terms. We didn't have many problems with ours but a couple of things annoyed me. Vicki and I announced the wedding at her parents house, her mum said "congratulations", her dad said "as you have been living together for so long, we won't be paying anything towards it"..!! I had never planned for anyone to contribute so I was a little taken aback by the comment. No congrats or kiss my arse. I got revenge by buying two nice suits for me and my best man Ste D and letting everyone else pay for theirs if they wanted to match. In the end they bought Vicki's dress and the cake but the initial comment annoyed me massively as I had an independence thing going on at the time. My mother also excelled herself by stating that she wasn't coming if my dad was going to be there (they had been divorced for 15 years). Ultimately she didn't come and missed her only sons wedding. We had a great day and never let anyone interfere with the arrangements. I made it quite clear that if people wanted things to be different, they should go to someone elses fooking wedding..!! FWIW Tubby Two, I think you should let the family know what you are doing and give them a "take it or leave it" invitation. Her dad does sound like a serious ar5ehole to me though. H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soopra Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 My first wedding was completely taken over by our parents. We wanted to get married in black and have a completely "goth" do. Our parents insisted we had a white wedding. Our only "revenge" was that we got married in a registry office, doing them out of the church service they all so desperately wanted. My first husband died after we had been married for only a few years leaving me with a 2 year old son. One of my biggest regrets to this day is that we didn't have the wedding we wanted. One of the biggest annoyances was the cake - we chose a pink heart shaped sponge cake, but my mum had another traditional fruit cake made. The list goes on... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TubbyTwo Posted October 5, 2011 Author Share Posted October 5, 2011 had a big family meet up last night with both sides but her dad failed to show, so pretty much sums it up I think. We are proceeding as planned, and her grandad is still walking her down the isle. Its our day, not his, he doesnt like it, dont come. His childish antics will mean he will miss his daughters wedding but thats up to him! He made his choice, we made ours! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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