Tony Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 What's your opinion on road side memorials? distracting? ok part of mourning ? or other? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neo2810 Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Why? Do they offend you? I've never had cause to think about it but if it comforts those who have lost someone there then I see no harm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lbm Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I must confess they're not exactly the most offensive thing I've seen on our roads. Perhaps a sober reminder for others too to take care etc... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 Why? Do they offend you? I've never had cause to think about it but if it comforts those who have lost someone there then I see no harm. Cant say they do, just on tv about council's taking them down, some of them very big! wondered if people are really that bothered by them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josh Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 They look a mess after a few years when just the plastic wrapping from the flowers and other stuff is left tied to a lamp post or fence. I don't think I'd do it if I knew someone that got killed on a road. The grave is enough IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 They look a mess after a few years when just the plastic wrapping from the flowers and other stuff is left tied to a lamp post or fence. Good point at what point should they be removed & should people be allowed to keep putting them back when they have a grave etc? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a98pmalcolm Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 random thread, but I have no issue except it makes me feel weird that someone died there.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Westcoaster Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 In the highlands, where I live, bikers come from far and wide to kill themselves on our corners. As many of the memorials are on tricky bends, they are a bit of a distraction. Frankly official signs that say how many people who have had the misfortune to die on particular stretches of road are enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronttuk Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 having 2 close friends and a relation killed on the roads they do give a certain amount of comfort when i drive by them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mark newman Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Its a good thing. It makes you think about the speed that you are doing thats a good thing. that what I think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tkddav3 Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 theres one on a corner just near my work, some poor kid on a moped i could of been the second one if it wasnt for a seat belt and a safe car. it does make you think about how you drive imo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dude Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Handy for bikers as they normaly warn of a dodgy bend etc !!!! Why leave flowers at a site that killed a loved one , leave them at the grave !!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I find them quite distracting but they do make you slow down a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Handy for bikers as they normaly warn of a dodgy bend etc !!!! Also act as a bit of padding should you fly off your bike into the tree/lampost Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stinboy Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Handy for bikers as they normaly warn of a dodgy bend etc !!!! Why leave flowers at a site that killed a loved one , leave them at the grave !!! Couldn't agree more. My brother died in a rta just over twenty years ago by hitting a tree on a bend not 2 mins from my parents house (the family home at the time). Friends of his and their families kept covering the offending tree with flowers. Our take at the time as a family was it was pretty upsetting and we tried to stop people doing it but to no avail. It's only my opinion but flowers by a graveside makes sense, not flowers by the thing which killed your loved ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mr lover Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Without them my mum wouldn't get any flowers for birthdays or mothers day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotty71 Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I (driving around alot daily) see many wooden crosses usually on country/fast roads. Some of these crosses look very nice and well tenderd so if the lost persons family needs this in their lives why not?? Agree on the old tired looking flowers thing though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Branners Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Does sometimes make me wonder, somebody crashed at that point so, but lets all go and put flowers there as its not going to happen twice and certainly wont be a distraction with that many people on the side of the road. One small memorial of flowers seems okay to me, but I always tell me wife that when I die in a horrible road crash I do not want a memorial at the crash site, I want to be remembered somewhere big instead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbleapple Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I heard a story that some of the shrines are actually put up by local councils/police to make people think about their driving. No idea where I heard this but it wouldn't surprise me if this was the case in some instances. I second the comments re them looking a mess years after. It's pretty sad how quickly people move on and forget. One of the reasons i don't want to be buried when I die; so many abandoned graves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Branners Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 One of the reasons i don't want to be buried when I die; so many abandoned graves. You might get a bit smelly after a few months though, they stick you in the ground for a reason... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abz Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 You might get a bit smelly after a few months though, they stick you in the ground for a reason... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbleapple Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 You might get a bit smelly after a few months though, they stick you in the ground for a reason... LOL. The smell wouldn't be my problem now would it! I think I will ask to be cremated (when dead). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Wilson Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 They are a handy source of floral gifts for wives and lady friends, saves climbing over the cemetery wall Seriously though, just like tasteful tombstones and engravings are one thing, and graves that look like a toy shop is being set up sans walls, with flashing lights and windmills, modesty is all. Piling half of a deceased worldy possessions on the apex of a blind bend is neither decorous nor becoming. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Wilson Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 LOL. The smell wouldn't be my problem now would it! I think I will ask to be cremated (when dead). Be careful, a local crematorium worker has been done for selling ashes. He exported them to the Congo as Ready Brek for cannibals. Getting my coat as I type, sorry..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Handy for bikers as they normaly warn of a dodgy bend etc !!!! Why leave flowers at a site that killed a loved one , leave them at the grave !!! Exactly, why commemorate the moment they died due to a terrible mistake/stupidity/showing off? Why not commemorate their life, at a grave or plaque. I remember driving along the A27 Havant by pass, iirc, and there was a sign saying "Pedestrian Crossing 200 yds" then at that crossing point in the central reservation was a floral tribute. "Only made it halfway then." I thought. I've heard it all started after people on holiday in the Med saw roadside shrines and mistook them for death markers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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