jazz1 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 heres some funny ones, this kid used to be good friends until he left my clan so i kindly asked him to rejoin and this is when he opens that little gob lol:d, best thing about it was when i owned him even though i never played in 3 months and he started to cry:d bear in mind poor boy is only 11, and i commited suicide 3 times http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CM1XFgWUGWc http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WukYZWPwh90 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSLuwWLcJTM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYTSCyFrFfg another yank yet opens his mouth all the time and plays 24/7 yet i still owned him and he too cryed http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiQpUbXW0cQ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Firstly i can't bring myself as his mum to even think about porn lol... even tho i know he prob knows far more than i'm aware!.. secondly! i do limit his time on ps3 as his sister wants to watch tv sometimes and so does tony!... that in it self is enough for WW3! If you could see his reaction to me saying turn it off and go and play believe me you would want to hide.. Perhaps i shall have to be a bit tougher and take it away see if he can calm down abit... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlexM Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I've never let computer games bother me, and I don't understand why other people do. I personally would take the console away until he learns how to control his anger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 heres some funny ones, this kid used to be good friends until he left my clan so i kindly asked him to rejoin and this is when he opens that little gob lol:d, best thing about it was when i owned him even though i never played in 3 months and he started to cry:d bear in mind poor boy is only 11, and i commited suicide 3 times http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CM1XFgWUGWc http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WukYZWPwh90 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSLuwWLcJTM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYTSCyFrFfg another yank yet opens his mouth all the time and plays 24/7 yet i still owned him and he too cryed http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiQpUbXW0cQ I'm speechless..... I just don't get the attraction of video games that turns grown men into that.. Oh well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Find his trigger point, the thing that means the most at this point in time and simple remove it, return it when behaviour has reached an acceptable level and don't be flexible.[/quot Sound advice, i had to do something similar regarding school work, he was getting silly behaviour at school and was becoming very frequent in the end i told him he was grounded indefinately until i had a week of complete good behaviour.. it worked too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjy Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I call my computer names every time some little sneaky mo fo jumps out and shoots me! As for the rage thing, feed him eastrogen. He may grow tits and get emotional, be awkward, talk shite, lose all spacial awareness, worry about how big his bum looks in certain clothes, fancy boys etc, but he'll chill out a little bit too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazz1 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I'm speechless..... I just don't get the attraction of video games that turns grown men into that.. Oh well. i just enjoy the ps3 because of the online its actualy live, but some kids so make me laugh they take it so serious its not my fault im just toooo goooood. The funny thing is when they send me swear word messages i just asking them " why are you crying" that really gets on their tits:d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Works for my kids too. Its amazing how much time they would spend on the damn things if you let them. Yes agree totally he would be on 24/7 i think if i let him.. i guess i will have to put up with him thinking i'm mean cos i limit his time and try not to argue back when he goes off on one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Yes agree totally he would be on 24/7 i think if i let him.. i guess i will have to put up with him thinking i'm mean cos i limit his time and try not to argue back when he goes off on one Remember you are a parent, not a best friend. It is your job to set guidelines and ensure they are ollowed. Action->reaction stuff. He does something good, he gets 2hours, does something wrong and time is revoked. Over time the triggers will change and it is just a case of changing it. My eldest daughter's trigger point is her computer to chat to her friends, but she is under no illusion that I can just cut off her internet access without even going in her room. She still has the odd moment but it is still very effective. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Remember you are a parent, not a best friend. It is your job to set guidelines and ensure they are ollowed. Action->reaction stuff. He does something good, he gets 2hours, does something wrong and time is revoked. Over time the triggers will change and it is just a case of changing it. My eldest daughter's trigger point is her computer to chat to her friends, but she is under no illusion that I can just cut off her internet access without even going in her room. She still has the odd moment but it is still very effective. Thats pretty good advice. i think i just get fed up with him arguing with everything and says its me bieng horrible and the usual his mates are allowed to do it why can't i etc etc... even tho i know thats not always strictly true as i found out.. I think i will have to put the above into practice Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazz1 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 i was talking to this young nice lad who lives local to me this was a tuesday 2:30am. Nice litte fella who actualy turned out to live around the corner to me, when i asked him if he had school, he just replied " il just skip school" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerikbok Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I am 23 and can finally say I am done with playing games, computer and console, on a regular basis. I used to get mad a bit, some people just overreact. Honestly I can't see you talking to him about calming down actually helping because you are his parent. My parents and I used to have endless arguments about the amount of time I spent on the computer, it didn't really ever do anything but make me frustrated, however, when it hits an "unhealthy" point I would agree with JustGav's approach. Clearly, video games are his interest at the time, this could mean he wants to be an artist, or a video game programmer, or any of the other multitude of jobs that go into making games, which is not a bad thing! You just have to identify when it is unhealthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Lol yes.. head and brick wall spring to mind:d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 the usual his mates are allowed to do it why can't i etc etc... even tho i know thats not always strictly true as i found out.. Good grief my mate's parents used to let them drive the cars at 12, stay up till 3am..all sorts. Of course it wa sall crap. The key I found as I've become a parent is consistancy. Even when my wife don't always agree on the reaction to the child's action we will never let them see that. They always see a single parental unit and there are rarely any gaps for them to say 'Mom said I could' as I've usually already had the chat with her. Whenever they ask major things the instant answer is 'I'll speak to dad/mom first'. The other thing we have found useful is consistancy with the punishments, as well as very little compromise;"I know I'm grounded but can I go to a party/school trip',NO!". Punishments which are recinded become a trigger point which the child can use back,they know they can plead and get their own way. Maybe harse and I get called 'Kommondant' by a few friends, but discipline is something I find lacking in many kids, much like manners. Again I'm a fan of corporal punishment in school, never did me much harm other than realize there are consequences for my actions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I always thought Gav was all cool and free... now it turns out he's this nazi parenting machine Who saw that coming? I'm glad you're not my dad Another vote for the bongo mags here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 I always thought Gav was all cool and free... now it turns out he's this nazi parenting machine Who saw that coming? I'm glad you're not my dad Another vote for the bongo mags here hahahah...oh I'm still fun to hang with... Funny this is we are considered the 'crazy cool parents' by the daughter's friends much to her annoyance Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 I always thought Gav was all cool and free... now it turns out he's this nazi parenting machine Who saw that coming? I'm glad you're not my dad Another vote for the bongo mags here Lol i cannot give him mags he's my son!!! he is only 12!...But i'm glad i have posted this up tho its nice to see i'm not the only one and they all go thru these attitudes etc. Some good advice:d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Al Massey Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 If he is having some silly behaviour at school sometimes and gets frustrated at the computer, have you tried to find out if anything bores him? When i was at school we had a young lad who got bored in class and had a few silly moments and his anger issues were pretty bad. His parents took him for an assesment with some doc (not sure what type) But it turned out he was clever than everyone thought and he got bored and frustrated due to the work being easy and too simple for him. Last i heard from him he was designing and building gaming software and making a fortune for doing something he still loves and finds easy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanGX Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Firstly, I'm probably a gamer above anything else. I do get stressed if a I die a critical moment, or the machine dies before I've saved - waste of half an hour - or the classic moment you get the ring-of-death on the xbox. The most you will get from me is a disbelieving "Oh you've got to be having a giraffe." I can remember being more upset as a kid, but never having a go at my dad because quite frankly he would probably shout louder and scarier. A couple of times as a child I'm quite sure I p*ssed myself out of fear. Early on dad threatened us with and used the cane. Had us in tears. BUT looking back, it made me the disciplined, somewhat unhinged introvert I am today. Like Gav said, don't show weakness. If you show a crack - they will take advantage of it for the rest of your life (God know I did!) playing you off your wife and before you know it you'll be saying "Ask your mother." I don't think it's the games, I think your boy needs to the law laid down the next time he goes vesuvius. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerikbok Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 If he is having some silly behaviour at school sometimes and gets frustrated at the computer, have you tried to find out if anything bores him? When i was at school we had a young lad who got bored in class and had a few silly moments and his anger issues were pretty bad. His parents took him for an assesment with some doc (not sure what type) But it turned out he was clever than everyone thought and he got bored and frustrated due to the work being easy and too simple for him. Last i heard from him he was designing and building gaming software and making a fortune for doing something he still loves and finds easy. I can sorta vouch for this, not to toot my own horn but when I was younger I got skipped 1 grade because it was deemed to easy for me, been to state spelling bee a few times and generally was a 4.0 student without ever cracking a book. Sadly I chose to apply my intelligence to video games at an unhealthy level which pretty much ruined college for me. That is why I implore you to figure it out when it is unhealthy and slow it down a bit. I program software and tinker with computers alot in my spare time from being full time awesome in the Air Force hehe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Cut his balls off, he'll soon calm down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RED_ROCKET Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Cut his balls off, he'll soon calm down. Lol Lol :d... Tony threatend to kick his arse upstairs the other day cos he thru a right fit even his mates went outside cos they felt uncomfortable, when tony said this he threatend to call the police! so cutting said balls off my not work Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Lol Lol :d... Tony threatend to kick his arse upstairs the other day cos he thru a right fit even his mates went outside cos they felt uncomfortable, when tony said this he threatend to call the police! so cutting said balls off my not work Ok that was me writing that forgot to log back on as me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustGav Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Lol Lol :d... Tony threatend to kick his arse upstairs the other day cos he thru a right fit even his mates went outside cos they felt uncomfortable, when tony said this he threatend to call the police! so cutting said balls off my not work Hand him the phone... (and give him a reason to call the police ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRACIE_LOU Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Hand him the phone... (and give him a reason to call the police ) Funnily enough i done that a few years ago before i met tony and my son was giving me a bit of lip i said i'd wash his mouth out with soap he said exactly the same that he'd call the police and i said off you go and explain to them why... he looked so shocked bless! He is a good lad really... sometimes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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