gordy07 Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 You need to focus on your son now,your his dad his real dad so forget about gemma because she obviously couldnt deal with the fact you had a son with someone else(sorry for the harsh reality)And go and be a father to your son. And dont worry youll meet someone else:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazz1 Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 get over it youv got a life and thats worth more than stress, theres plenty of fish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Well thats what women do i know i shouldnt say it as im female myself but i do have friends that have done exactly what your ex has done i see it alot and the reason is they found someone else. and as for your son well you should of got rid of her long time ago cause your son should come 1st and if she loved you that much she wouldnt of not wanted you to see your son she would of supported you. If i met a man with a child id accept them both all women should!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mr lover Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Go out and shag a minger Shane Hope that helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 1, 2008 Author Share Posted December 1, 2008 You need to focus on your son now,your his dad his real dad so forget about gemma because she obviously couldnt deal with the fact you had a son with someone else(sorry for the harsh reality)And go and be a father to your son. And dont worry youll meet someone else:) Thanks Gordy, you are right and that's one the one thing that I can concentrate on now... I think the kid thing really killed us off and she couldn't cope. As for seeing someone else, I would like to think not but it is a possibility... get over it youv got a life and thats worth more than stress, theres plenty of fish Cheers Jazz, it's just shock I suppose and I am a bit angry and gutted at the moment... It wasn't really what I needed after everything that has happened to be honest... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazz1 Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 mate iv been through what you have i was in love and was in a 3 year relationship, it does suck but soon you will get over it and trust me theres more to life than a woman, dont bother texting or calling her she will either soon realise what she has lost or you will find someon better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 1, 2008 Author Share Posted December 1, 2008 Well thats what women do i know i shouldnt say it as im female myself but i do have friends that have done exactly what your ex has done i see it alot and the reason is they found someone else. and as for your son well you should of got rid of her long time ago cause your son should come 1st and if she loved you that much she wouldnt of not wanted you to see your son she would of supported you. If i met a man with a child id accept them both all women should!!!!!!!!! Thankyou Nat (I hope you don't mind me calling you Nat ) You are right and it does seem strange, one minute she was fine, nothing wrong and come Monday, it's like all her feelings had just dissapeared... I was going to talk to Gemma about my Son tomorrow, I guess now, I don't need to... She never did understand about my Son and I think that I would of got the same result as last time....tears and shouting... I know all Women should, so should Men but it sometimes doesn't work out that way... On the bright side, fancy a drink...lol... Only joking... Go out and shag a minger Shane Hope that helps As my mates say: ''pull the pig night'' Hmmm.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Yes forget about her and i wouldnt take her back specially if she wouldnt let you see your son thats just wrong get to know ur son and then when ur ready you will find someone who will love you and your son,never let a women come between you and your son. My daughters dad never seen my daughter all because his gf wouldnt let him and now they finished he wants to see my daughter she is older now and she wont see him. Hopefully when u get to see your son your mind will be on him and not on the ex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Thankyou Nat (I hope you don't mind me calling you Nat ) You are right and it does seem strange, one minute she was fine, nothing wrong and come Monday, it's like all her feelings had just dissapeared... I was going to talk to Gemma about my Son tomorrow, I guess now, I don't need to... She never did understand about my Son and I think that I would of got the same result as last time....tears and shouting... I know all Women should, so should Men but it sometimes doesn't work out that way... On the bright side, fancy a drink...lol... Only joking... As my mates say: ''pull the pig night'' Hmmm.... lol if you wasnt so far maybe i would as a friend lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 2, 2008 Author Share Posted December 2, 2008 Yes forget about her and i wouldnt take her back specially if she wouldnt let you see your son thats just wrong get to know ur son and then when ur ready you will find someone who will love you and your son,never let a women come between you and your son. My daughters dad never seen my daughter all because his gf wouldnt let him and now they finished he wants to see my daughter she is older now and she wont see him. Hopefully when u get to see your son your mind will be on him and not on the ex Yeah thanks Nat, I truely do want to see my Son and thankyou for your advice, it means alot and is so true... I hope you are right about finding someone else because I don't know how true it is but is it true that women ''don't like men with baggage''?? That's terrible Nat, I am glad Gemma has split up with me in that respect because I could not live my life not seeing my Son because I am not allowed and now my kid doesn't want to see me because of it... I just have my ex to overcome now, I don't think seeing my Son will be that easy... My ex and I don't like each other and I believe she will make it as complicated as she can for me not to see my Son... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 2, 2008 Author Share Posted December 2, 2008 lol if you wasnt so far maybe i would as a friend lol Yeah, bummer...lol... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kopite Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Sorry to hear that Shane, she did sound a bit selfish and like you said, you can see your kid etc without any hassle from her now. If she is making up stories about getting beaten up etc - definitely better off without that cr@p. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jurgen-Jm-Imports Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 romance on the forum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jurgen-Jm-Imports Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Yeah, bummer...lol... you got a supra man lol dont refuse the offer:p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 2, 2008 Author Share Posted December 2, 2008 Sorry to hear that Shane, she did sound a bit selfish and like you said, you can see your kid etc without any hassle from her now. If she is making up stories about getting beaten up etc - definitely better off without that cr@p. I think that too Kopite, it was just an excuse... Like you say, at least I can see my Son now (hopefully) romance on the forum you got a supra man lol dont refuse the offer:p Yeah unlike you Jurgen... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Well at least it will give you something to occupy your mind with trying to get to see your son but you need to tell your ex you need to get on to see your son as its not fair on the child she needs to give you a chance to prove you can be a father to your son. If she wont let you then do not give up go see your solicitor and do everything you can to see him. I have kids and iv never met a man who wouldnt accept them and i dont think you having kids would stop a woman from wanting you there is loads i do not know of any woman who would not accept a man with a child well it wouldnt stop any of my friends or me or anyone i know so dont let that worry you you wont have any probs there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 2, 2008 Author Share Posted December 2, 2008 Well at least it will give you something to occupy your mind with trying to get to see your son but you need to tell your ex you need to get on to see your son as its not fair on the child she needs to give you a chance to prove you can be a father to your son. If she wont let you then do not give up go see your solicitor and do everything you can to see him. I have kids and iv never met a man who wouldnt accept them and i dont think you having kids would stop a woman from wanting you there is loads i do not know of any woman who would not accept a man with a child well it wouldnt stop any of my friends or me or anyone i know so dont let that worry you you wont have any probs there. Thanks Nat... The only problem I have is when I was made redundant from my job, I ran out of cash... So if I can't sort things out with her and have to go to a Solicitor, that is going to cost mega bucks - Solicitor fee's, court fee's... So I hope the ex and I can sort things out, I am not hopeful though and I think she will try to make things as difficult as possible... Especially with her chav BOYfriend and her chav friends... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 cant you get that legal aid thing if your not working or your CAB should be able to help they can go court for you and they are free Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 2, 2008 Author Share Posted December 2, 2008 cant you get that legal aid thing if your not working or your CAB should be able to help they can go court for you and they are free Really, I didn't know that... I am not so sure about the CAB though because last time I asked them for help regarding my Son, thay didn't really help me... All the ''advice'' they gave me was to look in the electoral roll book and the telephone book which she was in neither... The CAB recommend me to write her a letter first but if that doesn't work, then go and see a Solicitor which is all no good without an address... I still don't know where she lives and have no other information so I will have to go into town and try and find her... Not something that I really want to do but I don't have a choice... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 dont any of your mates know her or do u know any of her mates maybe if u asked around you will find her i found my daughters dad livingin cornwall when i was living in bham took a while to find him but when i did this i when his gf wouldnt let him see my daughter. Its different for you cause if she got a bf he cant stop u seeing your son. Im sure you will find her try on that facebook type her name in you might find her there cause i found alot of old friends there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Oh and yes i think u can get solicitor free if your not working and on benefits Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivan Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Sorry to hear the news Shane. But at least now you'll be able to concentrate on getting access to your boy without worrying about Gemma getting upset. A blessing in disguise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 2, 2008 Author Share Posted December 2, 2008 Oh and yes i think u can get solicitor free if your not working and on benefits That's the thing Nat, as much as I hate it, I have had to force myself to sign on the dole just to help me meet some of my monthly bills... So I don't know if it will still be free?? Sorry to hear the news Shane. But at least now you'll be able to concentrate on getting access to your boy without worrying about Gemma getting upset. A blessing in disguise. Yeah that's it Ken, you are right... It was a horrible thing to happen along with everythingelse to me this year but something has come good out of it - I just hope seeing my Son will be easy... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NatsupraTT Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 i sent u a pm silversoop and yes i think u can get legal aid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kopite Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 Not long til 2009 dude, new year, new life Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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