SilverSoop Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Hi all, well I am totally gutted... After 2 and a half years, my girlfriend has decided to break up with me and it was just so weird how it ended... On Friday night, Gemma called me and was really upset because her Aunt had been rushed into hospital so I supported her and then she told me that she was going to go to Preston with her Mum immediately... As the weekend passes by, I don't hear from her except a missed call but my phone was off and I thought that I would give her some space... So I call her tonight and she is off with me and I mean REALLY off... After a couple of phone calls, she starts talking to me and she said that she has had enough and can't go on anymore... It turns out that she never went to Preston because her Mum couldn't get the time off even though she doesn't work weekend's and that Gemma had to look after the dog... So she went out Saturday night and that's where I think things changed, either she met someone else, her Parents told her that they don't want her to see me anymore because of my circumstances or she just wanted to be single... On Sunday night walking back from her friend's house at 11:30 PM, she told me that she got beaten up by a bloke and a woman who knew her and beat her up because of me... She didn't have a bruise on her, she didn't go to the Police and she didn't call me to pick her up... It ended in a big arguement where she told me that I am ''selfish and irresponsible'' and that I care about my car too much and she pays for everything... I told her that since you have made your mind up, I will come round and get my stuff, she said ok, everything is packed... I packed her stuff and when I got to her place we exchanged things, I said bye and that was it... It was so strange how it ended and I am angry, confused and gutted... So what does everyone think about her actions then?? Do you think she was cheating, dumped by persuasion or she made her own mind up?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Look on the bright side... cheaper Christmas! Sounds to me like she was looking for an excuse to break up. sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kranz Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Plain wierd mate. Give it time and space, don't try to think about why right now... all that will become clear later. just try to think about how to move on and what YOU can do now. Feel for you dude. S Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pot Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Look on the bright side... cheaper Christmas! The voice of common sense Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazzi Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 What circumstances? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Khan2 Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamieP Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Seems all a bit heated, give her some time to cool off. When you say "because of my circumstances" what do you mean buy that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 It doesn't add up that she met someone else, well not on Saturday anyway. If she did she obviously didn't think much of your 2 and a half year relationship. Maybe she's in shock over her aunty? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gordy07 Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 FFS! I am not sure how this came about,but i feel for you mate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathew Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 from what ive read i think she's a bit loopy. better off without her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiceRocket Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 So what does everyone think about he actions then?? Do you think she was cheating, dumped by persuasion or she made her own mind up?? Where's the clicky poll? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luka-P Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 From what I know you've been through a lot lately and things seem to build up. Time is whats best I think. The pressure just probably mounded up and it all got to her a bit. I dont mean to sound negative but when I read the part about exchanging your stuff back, it kind of sounded as if you were both being a bit stubborn and neither of you wanted to really be wrong or be the 'bad guy', if that makes sense? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 1, 2008 Author Share Posted December 1, 2008 What circumstances? Seems all a bit heated, give her some time to cool off. When you say "because of my circumstances" what do you mean buy that? http://www.mkivsupra.net/vbb/showthread.php?t=168611 These circumstances... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Shane_ Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 just ask her straight out why she broke up wit ya ! After 2 1/2 years she at least owes ya a proper explanation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndrewOW Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Do you think she was cheating, dumped by persuasion or she made her own mind up?? Or slightly cuckoo? Sorry to hear of this, but by the sounds of it you'll be better off out of it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobSheffield Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Not good to hear Perhaps this will help to take your mind off it http://www.mkivsupra.net/vbb/showthread.php?t=170588 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 1, 2008 Author Share Posted December 1, 2008 Thanks guys for the support and comments, I think maybe she had enough and wanted a way out so she made up the bit about being beat up so she could just get out of the relationship... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Thanks guys for the support and comments, I think maybe she had enough and wanted a way out so she made up the bit about being beat up so she could just get out of the relationship... That's a very strange thing to make up?! Surely that would make you want to be with her more? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KamaSupra Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Gonna give you advice someone gave me on here when I broke up with my girlfriend I'd been with for 6 years and lived with for 2 years- Go gay! I choose not to take his advice as didn't appeal to me but for some people it does Don't contact her for a few days and see if she texts you or whatever thats what I did. Makes it look like your strong and don't fall to bits just because she's gone. My ex contacted me about 9 days later seeing how I am and stuff because I ignored her. Remember you were okay before you met here and you'll be okay after her! I haven't got back together with my ex but thats because I'm enjoying the single life and you can too! After all you live in the same town as me and it's not too bad on a fri and sat night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamieP Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 http://www.mkivsupra.net/vbb/showthread.php?t=168611 These circumstances... Have you ever seen a program called "Jeremy Kyle"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 1, 2008 Author Share Posted December 1, 2008 It doesn't add up that she met someone else, well not on Saturday anyway. If she did she obviously didn't think much of your 2 and a half year relationship. Maybe she's in shock over her aunty? Maybe but it's just so very weird how it all came about...one minute she is all upset and the next it's like she has turned all of her feelings off towards me... From what I know you've been through a lot lately and things seem to build up. Time is whats best I think. The pressure just probably mounded up and it all got to her a bit. I dont mean to sound negative but when I read the part about exchanging your stuff back, it kind of sounded as if you were both being a bit stubborn and neither of you wanted to really be wrong or be the 'bad guy', if that makes sense? Yes it has been a crap year for me matey!! I think you are probably right there, if she did break up with me because of everything that has happened then I don't blame her... When she wanted to exchange things Luke, she had made her mind up and that was it and there was no talking her out of it... just ask her straight out why she broke up wit ya ! After 2 1/2 years she at least owes ya a proper explanation From what she tells me it was because she has had enough of all the crap... She said she loves me and wants a future but can't do it anymore and Sunday night was the last straw... I don't make her happy and make her feel safe anymore... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heckler Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 sorry to hear that shane... chin up dude Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Go gay! Oooooakay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverSoop Posted December 1, 2008 Author Share Posted December 1, 2008 That's a very strange thing to make up?! Surely that would make you want to be with her more? Yes of course but what ever I said to try and talk her round it just didn't work...she wanted to end it and that was her decision and no-one could change that... It was just so sudden though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Yes of course but what ever I said to try and talk her round it just didn't work...she wanted to end it and that was her decision and no-one could change that... It was just so sudden though! I can't imagine ever making something like that up just to split up with someone. Maybe it's sudden to you but maybe she's been feeling like this for a while - that's what girls do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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