KamaSupra Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Bloody hell whats going on ???!!!! I've just broken up with my Girlfriend of 5 and half years. And she was my best friend, always so caring and supportive, been the best years ever, lived with her for 2 years. Not looking forward to her collecting her stuff either. Everything was great till about 2 weeks ago when she just seemed different. I've tried to make her feel wanted incase it was me as she said she was fine. Then on wed night went back to stay at her parents and hasn't been back since. Now we've broken up.... I want to get back with her or give her space but how can i when I know she'l have to come round to collect some or all of her things? Its so hard to get on with things, cooking dinner, sleeping on your own and just everthing when I'm so used to her being here. Can't stop feeling angry one minute then just so low the next... She hasn't gotta house key now so should i just let her collect her things and act all ok about it I don't know? Or do i try talking to her even though she doesn't seem to wanna talk? She says she wants to collect some things in my texts, she doesn't say all her things. Don't know if that means she'l be back? doe's she care secretly? If so why doesn't she say to my face or text, she doesn't even put a kiss or 'love you' in her texts now. I'm supposed to be going on this basingstoke meet today but don't know if i feel like it. But then i feel so shit when alone in my empty home reminded of her. I'm so confused on whats going on now and whats going on in her head!!!!!! PLEASE HELP if anyone has answers or advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 When she comes for her stuff chain her to a chair, that way she can't leave you. Simple eh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keancy Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 God mate sorry to hear that. Seem it is break up season at the moment as this is about the third thread along this lines in the last few weeks. I am not very good at these things but Chin up Dude, give her a little Space and maybe she will open up and tell you what is wrong in a few days. If you find it to hard to cope when she comes to collect her stuff why don't you see if one of your mutual mates will come to your place when she comes over and go out yourself?? Good luck Chap x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drnas78 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 some times a bit of time out can do good for both,TBH apart from talking to her and asking theres not much more taht can be done. have you though about a short beak away with the girlfriend may be that give you a better chance to talk. Just hope it works out well for you pal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KamaSupra Posted June 29, 2008 Author Share Posted June 29, 2008 When she comes for her stuff chain her to a chair, that way she can't leave you. Simple eh? Thats what I feel like doing as she just won't tell me properly whats going on. She leaves me, lives with parents for few nights, breaks up days later, then says she'l pick up few things....why not collect all her things?! That way she she can get on with her life and so can i. Does she wanna come back to me again eventually. If so why doesn't she just tell me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pete Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 She's a woman. Don't expect any logic. Unfortunately people just sometimes grow apart and there's nothing you can do. It's an old cliché, but time is the best healer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KamaSupra Posted June 29, 2008 Author Share Posted June 29, 2008 Tried to take her away for short break abroad as could see something was up other week but she didn't want to go, she said all is fine... Wish I had done more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Being honest, it sounds like she's made her decision. I would prob act ok about it in person, if it bothers her she will txt you, my opinion is I wont force someone to be with me, they will be with me because they want too. Maybe the reason she only wants to collect some stuff, is because she has no where to keep it all? I would say can you come collect the rest of yours stuff next weekend if thats ok. not in a mean way. However it sounds like you want to try and solve the problem, but I get the feeling you dont know what the problem is? You could ask her what has changed so you have an idea, im guessing she may come with a mate to collect her stuff so you dont ask questions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra-lover Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 plenty more fish in the sea my friend, if my girl did that to me i'd say ok buy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamesy W Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Sorry to here that buddy but If it was me, I'd bag up all her sh!t and leave it out in the garden, then go to the meet today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamieP Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Give her space, dont pester her to come come back as it will just push her further away, if it was me i would just try to get on with life for the next few days and play it cool, different circumstances but i went though this when leigh lost a baby, sent her a bit mad:rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KamaSupra Posted June 29, 2008 Author Share Posted June 29, 2008 Only thing she says is I didn't let her go out see friends and I'm sometimes too controlling. But talking to her parents and everyone else they said how can she say that as she was always out as much as me. No one else saw this breakup coming as we always were so happy, I just find it so hard to except that shes gone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drnas78 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Some people are not comfortable in telling problems and expressing there feeelings , i no my other halfs the same, i can sense there is something wrong but like getting blood out of a stone to find the problem so tend to leave it and she usually tells her self. the lastthing you want to be really doing is keep on about what s wrong wont make things better, is there any good trustworthy people that get on with your lady that can speak to her as some times people find it easier to speak to a mutual person then the person they are splitting with. I know its hard fella but try be strong and like people have said times the only heeler, and yes you should go to supra meet that will help take your mind off things for a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michael Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keancy Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michael Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Sorry I forgot that everyone else is allowed an opinion apart from me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra-lover Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keancy Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Sorry I forgot that everyone else is allowed an opinion apart from me. It's not that but your comment is probably the last thing the Bloke needs to hear right now when he is upset already, even if it may be true. Have you no feelings? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jspec Germany Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 When I first read this thread, I thought the same thing. It should be at least considered as a possibility. As mentioned before, move on, go to a meet, do something else. If you're meant to be with her, it'll happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drnas78 Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Moving on is very easy said then done, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
damouk Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 i agree with micheal here, that was exactly what happened to me after 10 years, if i was to do it again, and i gess my advice, is to sort out her stuff and tell her to collect it all, dont call and dont text. sort yourself out and then have some fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamieP Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 plenty more fish in the sea my friend, if my girl did that to me i'd say ok buy Buy what? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
damouk Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 ...a whore? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KamaSupra Posted June 29, 2008 Author Share Posted June 29, 2008 Sounds like she's not 100% sure that the new chap is an upgrade yet so she's keeping her options open. That had crossed my mind... its just she used to get well mad with friends who'd cheat, like actually angry with them and stuff. Thats why if she has a new bloke its so out of character. 2 weeks ago when I felt something was up i asked if she was happy. I even said are you happy with us do we need a bit of time apart. She said she wants me and to not be stupid. I just don't get it. On Tue everything was great, wed different girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tbourner Posted June 29, 2008 Share Posted June 29, 2008 Without even reading Michaels comment I was gonna reply and say she's probably been with someone else, certainly sounds like it. Although I was seeing it in better light and in my mind she's probably either been with someone else or at least thought about it, and felt guilty because of the way she feels about you, so she decided it was best to just get out and make some space, to get straight in her head what the situation is. So really that's a good thing (if she has done this), because normally they do it behind your back and let it all out in the middle of a big argument how much better their other bloke is - at least she cares enough about you to make a clean break as soon as it starts (2 weeks you say?). //edit: With your last comment, matches what I was saying, she's not a cheater so she's cheating the good way, by breaking up with you as soon as. Just a shame she couldn't come and talk to you about it as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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