Conrad Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 I had a missus for 6 years. We had a house and mortgage together, a dog and we were engaged. When we split it really did feel like the end of the world. She moved on and got a new fella but I spent the best part of a year feeling gutted and sick over her. To imagine her with somebody else was even worse, my stomach turned at just the thought of it. But as said time is a healer and even though you can't imagine it now you will find love again. I have already and in all honesty i'm even happier with my new girlfriend than I was with my ex. The most important thing is to NOT keep contact, delete her number no matter how much you don't want to (drunken texts and calls are not good!). And get back out there, go out with your mates and have some fun. I guarantee this time next year this pain will be a distant memory. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren-K Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 My ex dumped me,then got married in Bali to my best mate. obviously i was a little upset. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SupraAyf Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 It has already been said but get rid of the telephone numbers and the pictures/letters/cards etc. It seems heartless and bloody difficult when you do it as such things hold so many happy memories but it needs to be done ASAP mate. You will find the next few weeks difficult as you reflect on old times but this is only natural as you have so many memories to ponder over. I think I was dumped every 4-months (over a period of about 10-years ) but the woman I married now is the best girl ever. I look back some days and consider everything as insignificant but this is certainly not what it was like at the time of the various incidents. One thing is clear is that she was definitely not the woman for you as you deserve (every bloke does) a girl that sticks by you come thick or thin. I think women have a tendency to be a little more dynamic and robust than blokes during their younger years but time will show that this was good for you in the medium to long term. Get rid of the memorabilia and keep busy as what has been mentioned. Go for it mucker;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra steveo Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 i think what you need to do is get all you mates and go for a mad weekend somewhere, on the pull in force, that will put a smile on your face i garentee it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
probrox Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 I had a similar sort of thing when I was 20 after being with her for two years. Although it hurt at the time, I look back at it now and think if that hadn't happened I wouldn't be the person I am today, and I wouldn't have met the girl I'm with now. It all happens for a reason mate;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra steveo Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 It all happens for a reason mate;) i strongly believe this to. i had to go through a 110MPH+ head on collision with an HGV to realise this as far as girls go ( well its more like 120+ the truck driver said he was doing 50 and i am sure i remember looking down and thinking i was going to fast bet hey sh1t happens) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pig Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Lost of support for you on here. Lovely to see. Its already been said but i feel it the most important thing. Delete her number, email address, facebook. Everything! It will take you LOADS longer to get over her just with a phone call or text every few months. And the main thing, you need to be tuff on yourself, slap your self into gear (and yes i know how hard it is) and start the next phase of your life. Good luck and remember if your feeling low and need a kick up the arse your friends and this car forum ARE the places to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daston Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 when it happend to me all my mates in collage really helped out. Every weekend was a house party and all my girl mates brought there friends along I sware it was just to keep them amused as I tried to chat up every thing in a skirt lol. Made me realise quickly how I can easily have fun with my mates. When me and my current girl friend went through a rough patch, I moved out and bought a supra lol and here I am. Lukily she likes the car so didnt give me a hard time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra steveo Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 agree with pig it will take longer if every time you turn on the PC and her face is there , well thats if she is there anyway all i am trying to say is you need your mates around you, go out and have a good time, when i met my missus i had just came off sick leave and everything fell into place, these things hit you side on and you dont seeing it coming Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marc_p Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Wander over to NWS, some pictures there will definetly perk you up:eyebrows: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 i went uni with my ex You went to university? Which one? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 It has already been said but get rid of the telephone numbers and the pictures/letters/cards etc. It seems heartless and bloody difficult when you do it as such things hold so many happy memories but it needs to be done ASAP mate. You will find the next few weeks difficult as you reflect on old times but this is only natural as you have so many memories to ponder over. Get rid of the memorabilia and keep busy as what has been mentioned. I agree in principle, especially with lovey dovey stuff, but don't get rid of everything, especially pictures. That's erasing memories that you just can't get back. Relationship ending shouldn't be a negative, there must have been happy times, be grateful for those and you'll find it easier to move on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debonaire9989 Posted March 19, 2008 Author Share Posted March 19, 2008 once again thanks guys and girls for the support!. i have now deleted everything i had of her on my phone, even the nice pics. i've arranged a decent night out sunday, and will be attending the RWYB at york dragway on the 13th of april. me and the milkman whos got a new mustang are going, want to prove supras are faster once and for all. but as Charlotte said dont throw everything away as we did have some great times, i've kept a blue glass rose and scrat(lil dude from ice age) and have given my self a kick in the arse. im off to leeds today to get a book by niel strouse, so watch out ladies im coming to get ya. once again thanks for the advice and support, im going to try keep the old chin up, and as many of you have said time heels all. you guys have helpt me so im gona go help my self Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lbm Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 once again thanks guys and girls for the support!. i have now deleted everything i had of her on my phone, even the nice pics. i've arranged a decent night out sunday, and will be attending the RWYB at york dragway on the 13th of april. me and the milkman whos got a new mustang are going, want to prove supras are faster once and for all. but as Charlotte said dont throw everything away as we did have some great times, i've kept a blue glass rose and scrat(lil dude from ice age) and have given my self a kick in the arse. im off to leeds today to get a book by niel strouse, so watch out ladies im coming to get ya. once again thanks for the advice and support, im going to try keep the old chin up, and as many of you have said time heels all. you guys have helpt me so im gona go help my self Enjoy The Game, I did Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Wilson Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 You call it heartbreak, I call it a lucky escape for you. Learn from it and move on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlotte Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 You call it heartbreak, I call it a lucky escape for you. Learn from it and move on How are you still married? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 How are you still married? That is a very good question. I have never known anyone to be married for so long with no good words to say about it!! H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
couv3z Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 My ex dumped me,then got married in Bali to my best mate. obviously i was a little upset. some mate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
supra steveo Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 i cant remember how to play the game ive been married 5 yrs now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Wilson Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 That is a very good question. I have never known anyone to be married for so long with no good words to say about it!! H. I've never known anyone to be married as long as me that have any GOOD words to say about it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Wilson Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 How are you still married? I have great endurance. Read into that what you will Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 I've never known anyone to be married as long as me that have any GOOD words to say about it True!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colsoop Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Your a young man, go out and have a good time meet some new people broaden your horizons. Or you can sit at home and be bitter and upset about it. You decide Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ady Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 I got divorced at 22 - was shite at the time but youll get over it. So do what I did, gather your mates and book a 2 week, club 18-30 holiday to San Antonio - IBIZA You will NOT regret it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michael Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 You will NOT regret it! Until he gets AIDS... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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