debonaire9989 Posted March 18, 2008 Share Posted March 18, 2008 im only 22 and i know i have my life ahead of me, but at the moment my heart is in pieces. 5years ago i met an amzing girl, and we fell for each other straight away. and for 4years we did everything with eachother. but in september she went to uni, after all the talks about how "its only 3 years apart", etc. we decided that its best that we give each other space and she enjoys uni as best as she can, because i didnt want to be a protective fella that had a go at her ever time she said another guys name. so anyway the tears were shed when she left and i missed her so much, but after a week of her being there i got a text saying that she wanted to be single and enjoy uni life, to which i said," well thats what we talked about and i want you to be happy and enjoy your self, but id like you to come back to me when your at home" to which we agreed. but 2months on from that conversation she has a new boyfriend, and to me its heartbreaking, still. i did my best to be friends but she said, and i quote "why would i want to be friends with you?"i suppose im just after advice on life from people out there that have been in this situation before, what makes the pain easier?? and how do you cope with it?? i know its a car site, but im sure im not alone here, any help would be nice. thanks anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitesupraboy2 Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 keep busy and dont sit on the car forum...seriously! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazz1 Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 same thing happend to me mate i went uni with my ex who i loved so much went out with her for 4 years until she started to change, all girls and boys do that they see uni life as doss in the first year. I thank her now although at the time i was in pieces if it was not for her i would not be training and i love being single my life is so much less stress Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epic Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Im also 22 mate, dont see it as ruining your life! People change at uni, my best friend did when she went and she will never be the same person i remember... sumtime these things happen for a reson mate. Your still young, have a great car and doing well for your self... Dont let emotions get in the way of things, look forward's, dont let people see you down. it will only put them off, try to learn from things and go from there... nothing will stop the pain only you can get on with life and learn to forget Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamesmark Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Yes my Ex fecked up my life, been with her over 3 years and no hint anyting was wrong. Then BANG it was over. I was put on Anti D's from the Docs. They were a load of rubbish those Anti D's. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jazz1 Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 although i dumped my ex lol:) i knew something had changed maybe she started turning into a slap*r Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt H Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 times a healer mate. The worst time ever in my life was when i broke up from my x of 2.5 years, the only girl i have ever loved. I didnt want to be with her anymore so i called it quits, 4/5 months later i realised the mistake i had mate.... she didnt want to take me back......gutted. so hard, took me a while to get over, but you do, just takes time........ Best thing to do is dont keep in contact with her, try to foget, move on and let time do everything else Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epic Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Im Anti Diesel my self... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epic Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Deleting all number, contact details etc helps, temptation is a killer!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Shane_ Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 horrible gut feeling dude, been there, got the t shirt but the main thing is, it WILL pass ...... not now, not tomor but the pain will ease and you will find someone else too and yet again be happy Keep the head up fella Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jurgen-Jm-Imports Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 its hard right now but you will laugh about further down the line, am with my missus now and prior to that had a 4 year relationship that i thought it would be forever and i couldnt be more happier now but in the past when i was feeling like you i couldnt see it.. but it will come my life has changed so much in different stages from 16-21 21-24 then 24-28.. 16-21 i would never of dreamed of the girl am with etc and what i do for job and car i drive etc etc.. life throws you so many surprises good and bad its how you deal with it.. i have had 2-3 serious relationships in the time above, lost my dad to a heart attack , lost close friends through car crashes. but i have also had many happy times too.. just take each day as it comes and dont hold grudges mate as it gets you no were, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juanchan Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 times a healer mate. The worst time ever in my life was when i broke up from my x of 2.5 years, the only girl i have ever loved. I didnt want to be with her anymore so i called it quits, 4/5 months later i realised the mistake i had mate.... she didnt want to take me back......gutted. so hard, took me a while to get over, but you do, just takes time........ Best thing to do is dont keep in contact with her, try to foget, move on and let time do everything else Had similar, but instead of 4-5 months later it was about a week later. Which is when I found out she'd moved in with some other guy already That was a bit tough to take after being with her for over 2 years! Deleting all number, contact details etc helps, temptation is a killer!!! I had to get my best mate to do that for me when I was insanely drunk in a nightclub as I was threatening to call her all the time. Worked a treat in getting over her, but I did start getting some rather abusive texts a few of months later from an unknown number. Turned out it was her accusing me of stirring things up to "try and break her up from her new bloke". Which is why women are such a mystery to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debonaire9989 Posted March 19, 2008 Author Share Posted March 19, 2008 wow, guys i never thought id get this kind of support from a car Enthusiast site, its nice to know that i dont stand alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debonaire9989 Posted March 19, 2008 Author Share Posted March 19, 2008 also thankyou for the support:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lbm Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Head up chap. In the mean time, this just for you The Journey of Man (originally posted by CJ) http://www.mkivsupra.net/vbb/showthread.php?t=135862&highlight=journey+man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redtwinturbo Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Yes my Ex fecked up my life, been with her over 3 years and no hint anyting was wrong. Then BANG it was over. Identical scenario 6 months ago, I feel your pain bud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debonaire9989 Posted March 19, 2008 Author Share Posted March 19, 2008 The Journey of Man When I was 14, I hoped that one day I would have a girlfriend. When I was 16 I got a girlfriend, but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life. In college I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency; she was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide. So I decided I needed a girl with stability. When I was 25 I found a very stable girl but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided that I needed a girl with some excitement. When I was 28 I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad impetuous things and made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but had no direction. So I decided to find a girl with some real ambition. When I turned 31, I found a smart ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned. I am now older and wiser, and am looking for a girl with big tits. hahaha, she had a very nice chest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creative Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 get into swinging! will help you no end! :innocent: echoing the above comments, let her go, enjoy your life and which ever direction you choose to go and make of it. oh and women are strange... thats all you need to know! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian R Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Oh well S**t happens took me all of about 1 hour just move on. If it makes you feel better I had a lucky escape with my ex she was a nice size 10 when we were going out and saw her after 2 years the other day and is now a size 16 lucky escape me thinks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr_Doom Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Keep your chin up mate. As already said, time's the only healer for things like this. You'll find nearly all of us have been in the same situation. I was going out with a girl for 3yrs+, living together etc. One minute you're in love, the next BAM! it's over!... It sucks and you'll feel like you're on your own but you WILL get over it, trust me! Try and keep busy & get out and about as much as you can. Surround yourself with your friends as much as you can, they'll be the ones to help you through it... Try to remember 'What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger'... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kopite Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Identical scenario 6 months ago, I feel your pain bud. Chin up dude, hopefully soon you'll have it in perspective and see her actions for what they really show about her etc. Look forward to the future and make yourself happy for now, that's what i'm doing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmx1lew Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 I always say if it was meant to be its meant to be, I live my life constantly thinking negatively why live in hope and wish for better, its best to accept that the universe and life is a dark and spontaneous place, tomorrow you could be dead so don’t live in regret and remorse, regret what you haven't done, accept she's gone and learn to place her as history in your mind, then enjoy life as a free man, that’s the best way to look at it. I've had ex's cheat on me and I’ve been in the same situation, I found for myself that anger is the easiest way to get over them, I look at them as a enemy who hurt me so I hate them more which drives away the feelings you have or had, but I’m happy again in another long term relationship but it never stops me thinking what if, but the day summit does happen I’m a free man again and off to do the things in life I want to do, emigrate and drop the past for a better life abroad away from debt and the expenses of gray England. My only down fall is I don’t think I can give a person who loves me up for my other lust in life so I contradict myself by living in regret to keep her happy... so don’t bother with her or other’s, tour the world while your young don’t tie any knots and try get a French bird there proper dirty and there accent is ace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
couv3z Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 most be this time of year peeps are getting dropped left right and centre me included hears my advise after being dumped on my 2nd 2year relationship don't spend £500 on beer, it only blocks the pain and makes you poor, keep busy and keep your mind off her as time goes by she will be less and less in your thoughts. and unlike my Ex at least yours doesn't work 20metres away from your house Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ImraanK Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 Find ways to keep yourself busy... listen to music.. it helps.. Time does heal even the deepest of wounds... U might not believe it now(im pretty sure u dont) but it will... Been there.... Done that ...Got the t shirt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Konrad Posted March 19, 2008 Share Posted March 19, 2008 There is a lot of fish in the sea mate, smile and search Love as an affection keeps up to 4 years, noones brain could keep longer, after approx 4 years your "obsession" about your other half changes to respect, attachment to other person, some kind of habit of having her/him around. Oh - there is nothing like love at distances - been there, done that, bartender job in very busy pub with parties every weekend helped a lot AFTER (did I mention tons of fit and slightly drunk girls? ). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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