AndyT Posted February 16, 2008 Share Posted February 16, 2008 The grass is greener on the other side is a bit wrong to say the least, its the same shade of brown as the side your on. If you want to talk mid life crisis, then I am 49 and I have no real desire to do everything that someone suffering MLC does, and I am generalising here, being stuck in a rut, have an affair, buy a fast red sports car, dress like a teenager, go clubbing are all signs of MLC. I have done all the things a young man does while I was in the Armed Forces and some more, the one sight that will stay with me till I die is standing next to a group of 500 penguins while I was serving in the Falkland Islands. I have travelled, played sports, sampled many different cultures so I do not feel the need to jump over the fence. On the other hand my brother who is 47 and had stayed in the same town for the past 30 years is showing all the classic symptoms. Enjoy life with what you have and don't wish it away Good post bud. Done the penguin bit too. Fantastic. Tried to get a piccy flight over the ice from SG too but some turd got ill and we had to turn back. Maybe next time. I'm exactly the same. The forces has given me experiences and memories. Stop spending all your money on stuff and start spending more on memories or future memories. Spend more of your free time outside and enjoy every day like it was your last. What if you die tomorrow? It could happen to any of us. If I see my death about to hit me while crossing the street, I'll look at my life in those split seconds and be able to say I lived and it was a great ride. You have the power, you have the choice. Don't wait for someone else to make tomorrow happen today. It's up to you. There's nothing wrong with working at a desk. If you really don't like it, find another job. You could be engineering stuff in Dubai or leading a building project in China right now. I'd put money on it. Sorry for the long reply, but a MLC at 29? I'm 33 and life just keeps getting better and better. Do you have a hot woman with large posterior protrusions? Getting one may make you feel better. If not, might I recommend http://www.redtube.com (NWS btw) to get your mind off life sucking for a while. If I look back at the places I've been and people I've met, I'd say I'm lucky. Didn't start any of this until I was 29 either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xanderroan Posted February 21, 2008 Author Share Posted February 21, 2008 Hey People, Just wanted to thank you all for your posts. I'm not gonna do any quotes or specific replies, because to be honest there's lot's of great stuff and plenty to think about for me. I got loads of thoughts from you that are different from those by friends and family and a bit closer to my perspective & none that I can give a worthy reply in a few lines. I've at least come to one decision to move back up to Scotland from London and also to leave my current consulting job - handed in my notice I'm going to either find better work or at least find another job up North where I have more spare time to do some hobbies (hopefully to get something sorted our for a bit of track day action). Thanks again for the replies and comments, helping motivate me to get of my ass and do stuff Alex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creative Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Hey People, Just wanted to thank you all for your posts. I'm not gonna do any quotes or specific replies, because to be honest there's lot's of great stuff and plenty to think about for me. I got loads of thoughts from you that are different from those by friends and family and a bit closer to my perspective & none that I can give a worthy reply in a few lines. I've at least come to one decision to move back up to Scotland from London and also to leave my current consulting job - handed in my notice I'm going to either find better work or at least find another job up North where I have more spare time to do some hobbies (hopefully to get something sorted our for a bit of track day action). Thanks again for the replies and comments, helping motivate me to get of my ass and do stuff Alex well played fella! I've been the same recently. I always said that I would be back in Australia by the time I'm 30 and I've only got a year to go! lol been in the bar trade all my life and I'm sick of it. SO the house is on the market... I have no debts and will have £20k in the bank from the house when I go. I can literally pick a new career! I will have no ties and can start at a lower level in whatever I choose to do and tbh.... I CANNOT WAIT!!! I just wish I had done it when I was younger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheekymonkey Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 For all you IT guys who are bored shiteless (like I was) - start contracting! New job every 6 months if you want, and you get to look down on them permie types.. and earn more money as a bonus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangerous brain Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 I feel trapped in my job. 13 years left to go before I can collect my pension. I can't leave otherwise the £300 odd a month I've been paying in to my pension will become worthless. Mind you I'm more than halfway now. Thats how I felt in the RAF. I binned it anyway and am much happier than my mates that are constantly going to Afghanistan and Iraq. I get bored of fixing the same damn helicopter for 16 years but the alternatives don't pay the rent... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
far Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 you could always do both and if the sideline kicks off quit your desk job Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grahamc Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Right.. looking for some personal life advice.. Oh and why ask here (might seem a bit strange)?, But I've been in the club about a month now, you all seem like a good bunch of people, and assuming there are some like minded 'car nuts' here I thought you might be able to give me some different advice from my friends, family etc. Basically I am 29, I used to work on classic cars as a hobby when I was in School in my spare time, my first car was a 1969 Riley 4/72 that I partly restored for passing my test, also used to run around in random cars on the farms and forest tracks in the highlands when I was around fourteen with a friend (used to love it so much). After that I went to Uni, and although I studied Engineering money / space didn't really give me the chance to have a car, following that I started a job in IT, basically because it pays really well and there are lot's of jobs (yeah - so I sold out!). So I've been working about seven years as an IT manager, on the upside I earn a lot (worked for Procter & Gamble & Accenture), on the downside my job really sucks, I spend all day working with powerpoint, excel and MS project and this IT stuff that I do with what they call ERP applications is seriously boring... In the modern world with all these desk jobs sometimes it's really hard to feel like a real man lol Sometimes I wish i had a job where I work with my hands, anything from working outdoors somewhere through to say re-building engines would be just so much more fun. When I see some of the traders websites here like Envy I am pretty impressed that some of the guys out there have started and made these business successful, must be amazing! But I imagine a lot of hard work, I'm sure it beats desk jobs by a mile though.. So, to my fellow car/engine/speed nuts, I was wondering does anybody else have a desk job and feel a bit the same and I wanted to throw the question out there on career change advice, what would be a good way to get into tuning / motorsport at my age?? bit of a random thread... feel free to laugh, agree, disagree or give some advice I nkow the feeling... but work is work and IT pays well enough. You just need to leave work at work when your time is done. A mid life crisis at 29? Goodness knows what you will feel like at 50 Its something that (I believe) people should be always asking. Otherwise life will pass you by as you wait for something to happen. This is funny I worked in IT before Envy, and used to work many hours in front of a computer. I hated computers after only 2 years. Since I started Envy I now work several hours more per day in front of a computer I barely leave my desk all day, I don't think its quite as glamorous as you all think! Plus in the winter, its absolutely freezing working outside on cars so I am so glad I'm not a mechanic Yeah, but thats because you live on here I felt the same mate, 17years behind a desk finally got to me. Took me a couple of years to get over hitting 30 But then started planning my escape from the suit and tie. Finally did it though, working more hours, freezing my nuts off in a cold workshop and skint as a fart - but happy as a pig in .... It's not easy to make the break though mate, I was earning pretty well and on course for big things, but as corny as it sounds, money really isn't everything. Good luck mate, you re going to need it! However I will try and support you, as soon as Gavin gives me that supercharger he is using as a door stop For all you IT guys who are bored shiteless (like I was) - start contracting! New job every 6 months if you want, and you get to look down on them permie types.. and earn more money as a bonus. I am seriously considering doing this... The missus earns enough to support us both for a month or 2... SQL DBA in London should earn a decnt salary. However its not the money that appeals to me... Its the extra time I can get, if I stay at my current salary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheekymonkey Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 I am seriously considering doing this... The missus earns enough to support us both for a month or 2... SQL DBA in London should earn a decnt salary. However its not the money that appeals to me... Its the extra time I can get, if I stay at my current salary. Hehe... I think that's every contractors initial plan - work for 3 months, have three months off. In reality however it's VERY hard to refuse £400 a day or whatever on a plate when the place you're at wants you to stay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SUPRASUZUKI Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Mid life crisis? You only left school 13 years ago!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marc_p Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 I felt the same mate, 17years behind a desk finally got to me. Took me a couple of years to get over hitting 30. You've been working a desk job since you were 13. Kudos my man;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grahamc Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Hehe... I think that's every contractors initial plan - work for 3 months, have three months off. In reality however it's VERY hard to refuse £400 a day or whatever on a plate when the place you're at wants you to stay I would at least like to get close to that... 2 - 3 weeks off inbetween contracts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheekymonkey Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 I would at least like to get close to that... 2 - 3 weeks off inbetween contracts. Yeah - it's quite hard to do - in 4 years of contracting this is my first break. I had a job lined up for last Monday after finishing in London on Friday, but there are delays... security clearance! Enjoying the time off though - getting so much done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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