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Right.. looking for some personal life advice..

 

Oh and why ask here (might seem a bit strange)?, But I've been in the club about a month now, you all seem like a good bunch of people, and assuming there are some like minded 'car nuts' here I thought you might be able to give me some different advice from my friends, family etc.

 

Basically I am 29, I used to work on classic cars as a hobby when I was in School in my spare time, my first car was a 1969 Riley 4/72 that I partly restored for passing my test, also used to run around in random cars on the farms and forest tracks in the highlands when I was around fourteen with a friend (used to love it so much). After that I went to Uni, and although I studied Engineering money / space didn't really give me the chance to have a car, following that I started a job in IT, basically because it pays really well and there are lot's of jobs (yeah - so I sold out!).

 

So I've been working about seven years as an IT manager, on the upside I earn a lot (worked for Procter & Gamble & Accenture), on the downside my job really sucks, I spend all day working with powerpoint, excel and MS project and this IT stuff that I do with what they call ERP applications is seriously boring...

 

In the modern world with all these desk jobs sometimes it's really hard to feel like a real man lol

 

Sometimes I wish i had a job where I work with my hands, anything from working outdoors somewhere through to say re-building engines would be just so much more fun.

 

When I see some of the traders websites here like Envy I am pretty impressed that some of the guys out there have started and made these business successful, must be amazing! But I imagine a lot of hard work, I'm sure it beats desk jobs by a mile though..

 

So, to my fellow car/engine/speed nuts, I was wondering does anybody else have a desk job and feel a bit the same and I wanted to throw the question out there on career change advice, what would be a good way to get into tuning / motorsport at my age??

 

bit of a random thread... feel free to laugh, agree, disagree or give some advice :)

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The grass is greener on the other side is a bit wrong to say the least, its the same shade of brown as the side your on. If you want to talk mid life crisis, then I am 49 and I have no real desire to do everything that someone suffering MLC does, and I am generalising here, being stuck in a rut, have an affair, buy a fast red sports car, dress like a teenager, go clubbing are all signs of MLC.

I have done all the things a young man does while I was in the Armed Forces and some more, the one sight that will stay with me till I die is standing next to a group of 500 penguins while I was serving in the Falkland Islands. I have travelled, played sports, sampled many different cultures so I do not feel the need to jump over the fence. On the other hand my brother who is 47 and had stayed in the same town for the past 30 years is showing all the classic symptoms.

Enjoy life with what you have and don't wish it away

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When I see some of the traders websites here like Envy I am pretty impressed that some of the guys out there have started and made these business successful, must be amazing! But I imagine a lot of hard work, I'm sure it beats desk jobs by a mile though..

 

I bet for every success, there are many failures. We've had one or two on this forum to name but a few.

 

If you're only 29 then you still have a few months before your entitlement to join the Army becomes null and void - now that's a real mans job:d

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I know where you are coming from, I work in IT on CRM, ERP solutions with accenture guys and other contrators based on site at one of the IT multi national american companies,and at the end of the day it is all meaningless, family friends enjoying what you like is where life starts. Personally I would also love to get involved in the car scene tuning etc but I have seen people try and make their hobbies into their source of income and rather enjoying the normal destresses associated with a hobbie it too becomes a pain in the ass :(, so unfortunatly the 98% of people who work in jobs to survive just have to do it (unless you win the Lotto), it is the survival of the fitest and make best with what you have, thier are always worse people off than you , and remember not to get stressed out, enjoy life at every opportunity and always take chances wether its in your career or to try something new...take life by the balls and part-tay :) after all you have a Supra..also play Lotto (P.s no I dont work for the Lotto) :o

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I know where you are coming from, I work in IT on CRM, ERP solutions with accenture guys and other contrators based on site at one of the IT multi national american companies,and at the end of the day it is all meaningless, family friends enjoying what you like is where life starts. Personally I would also love to get involved in the car scene tuning etc but I have seen people try and make their hobbies into their source of income and rather enjoying the normal destresses associated with a hobbie it too becomes a pain in the ass :(, so unfortunatly the 98% of people who work in jobs to survive just have to do it (unless you win the Lotto), it is the survival of the fitest and make best with what you have, thier are always worse people off than you , and remember not to get stressed out, enjoy life at every opportunity and always take chances wether its in your career or to try something new...take life by the balls and part-tay :) after all you have a Supra..also play Lotto (P.s no I dont work for the Lotto) :o

 

 

Are you sure? lol

Seriously im exactly the same. I'd rather have a job i enjoy than a job that pays a little more.

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Are you sure? lol

Seriously im exactly the same. I'd rather have a job i enjoy than a job that pays a little more.

 

It s not that simple

 

Where did I say I didnt enjoy my job, every job has highs and lows the difference what I am talking about is having passion for my job and by passion I mean you dont need money as an incentive to do it

 

I am passionate about racing cars but I am realistic about where I am getting my next pay check from to pay my bills

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This is funny :)

 

I worked in IT before Envy, and used to work many hours in front of a computer. I hated computers after only 2 years. Since I started Envy I now work several hours more per day in front of a computer :rlol:

 

I barely leave my desk all day, I don't think its quite as glamorous as you all think! Plus in the winter, its absolutely freezing working outside on cars so I am so glad I'm not a mechanic :D

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I'm 30 and working in IT, and bored, but mainly of the place I'm living (Cheltenham), and not enjoying my job much, mainly due to my poor manager, and the lack of support from above...

 

I'm looking into finding a job in Brum and moving up there as I've got some good mates up there and it'll refresh my 'Out of work' life no end :)

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I felt the same mate, 17years behind a desk finally got to me. Took me a couple of years to get over hitting 30 :D But then started planning my escape from the suit and tie.

 

Finally did it though, working more hours, freezing my nuts off in a cold workshop and skint as a fart - but happy as a pig in .... :D

 

It's not easy to make the break though mate, I was earning pretty well and on course for big things, but as corny as it sounds, money really isn't everything.

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The grass is greener on the other side is a bit wrong to say the least, its the same shade of brown as the side your on. If you want to talk mid life crisis, then I am 49 and I have no real desire to do everything that someone suffering MLC does, and I am generalising here, being stuck in a rut, have an affair, buy a fast red sports car, dress like a teenager, go clubbing are all signs of MLC.

I have done all the things a young man does while I was in the Armed Forces and some more, the one sight that will stay with me till I die is standing next to a group of 500 penguins while I was serving in the Falkland Islands. I have travelled, played sports, sampled many different cultures so I do not feel the need to jump over the fence. On the other hand my brother who is 47 and had stayed in the same town for the past 30 years is showing all the classic symptoms.

Enjoy life with what you have and don't wish it away

 

 

I'm exactly the same. The forces has given me experiences and memories. Stop spending all your money on stuff and start spending more on memories or future memories. Spend more of your free time outside and enjoy every day like it was your last. What if you die tomorrow? It could happen to any of us. If I see my death about to hit me while crossing the street, I'll look at my life in those split seconds and be able to say I lived and it was a great ride. You have the power, you have the choice. Don't wait for someone else to make tomorrow happen today. It's up to you. There's nothing wrong with working at a desk. If you really don't like it, find another job. You could be engineering stuff in Dubai or leading a building project in China right now. I'd put money on it. Sorry for the long reply, but a MLC at 29? I'm 33 and life just keeps getting better and better. Do you have a hot woman with large posterior protrusions? Getting one may make you feel better. If not, might I recommend http://www.redtube.com (NWS btw) to get your mind off life sucking for a while.

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I felt the same mate, 17years behind a desk finally got to me. Took me a couple of years to get over hitting 30 :D But then started planning my escape from the suit and tie.

 

Finally did it though, working more hours, freezing my nuts off in a cold workshop and skint as a fart - but happy as a pig in .... :D

 

It's not easy to make the break though mate, I was earning pretty well and on course for big things, but as corny as it sounds, money really isn't everything.

 

i will remember that statement when you give me my bill:p

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I'm exactly the same. The forces has given me experiences and memories. Stop spending all your money on stuff and start spending more on memories or future memories. Spend more of your free time outside and enjoy every day like it was your last. What if you die tomorrow? It could happen to any of us. If I see my death about to hit me while crossing the street, I'll look at my life in those split seconds and be able to say I lived and it was a great ride. You have the power, you have the choice. Don't wait for someone else to make tomorrow happen today. It's up to you. There's nothing wrong with working at a desk. If you really don't like it, find another job. You could be engineering stuff in Dubai or leading a building project in China right now. I'd put money on it. Sorry for the long reply, but a MLC at 29? I'm 33 and life just keeps getting better and better. Do you have a hot woman with large posterior protrusions? Getting one may make you feel better. If not, might I recommend http://www.redtube.com (NWS btw) to get your mind off life sucking for a while.

 

Good post. :)

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I think you have made a wrong career choice within IT. I have 7 years experience (Accenture & LogicaCMG) and seen the jobs my managers do and as you said it’s all paper work, which I would hate, so I have avoided the managerial route like the plague ;) I’m now a high level System Engineer and love getting in involved in project work like AD & GPO design, 3rd line support and this week I’ve been getting my hands dirty setting up a Data Centre. The next route in my career will be Technical Architect, which will take the support duties out of my role and go purely into design. I love my job and best of all I get paid well!

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I'm exactly the same. The forces has given me experiences and memories. Stop spending all your money on stuff and start spending more on memories or future memories. Spend more of your free time outside and enjoy every day like it was your last. What if you die tomorrow? It could happen to any of us. If I see my death about to hit me while crossing the street, I'll look at my life in those split seconds and be able to say I lived and it was a great ride. You have the power, you have the choice. Don't wait for someone else to make tomorrow happen today. It's up to you. There's nothing wrong with working at a desk. If you really don't like it, find another job. You could be engineering stuff in Dubai or leading a building project in China right now. I'd put money on it. Sorry for the long reply, but a MLC at 29? I'm 33 and life just keeps getting better and better. Do you have a hot woman with large posterior protrusions? Getting one may make you feel better. If not, might I recommend http://www.redtube.com (NWS btw) to get your mind off life sucking for a while.

 

As Charlotte said earlier, that's a very good shout.

 

Life is too short for what ifs and maybes. You are young enough to change to something where you are happier - it just takes the courage to get out of the comfort zone.

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