KimberleyAnn Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 You met a girl/guy........really got on well, was together for awhile, spent most of your time together, loved each other blah blah But......they had a child with there ex, who was still very young. Just a question.....but would you feel he/she would go back to them, presuming they have no contact at all at the moment with either the parent or child? what would your feelings be? Oh dont i bring xmas cheer lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michael Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 I'd talk to them about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 Been there, done that. So I know what you mean, it's a complication you could do without. I look at it like this; It basically boils down to whether the person is worth the extra hassle it's going to be, and if the answer is no then that person wasn't really the right one for you in the first place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimberleyAnn Posted December 25, 2007 Author Share Posted December 25, 2007 She/he has talked about it, alot....... The ex, did a few things to get back at the person......involved the police ect. *sigh* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jurgen-Jm-Imports Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 go with your instincts kim by asking on here you have a doubt already ??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neil tt Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 Its not a major problem, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 My story is a long one and would take some believing to people who don't know me! Mrs H and I have been together for 13 years but I have a daughter who is nearly 13 from a previous relationship. When we found out about my ex being pregnant I expected Mrs H to run a mile as we'd only been together a month or so! We now have 2 kids of our own and we have never been happier. Whether you have a child with a person or not, if they are not the one for you then you'd be stupid to go back just for the childs sake!! Talk it over with the guy, we're not all bad!! H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyT Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 My story is a long one and would take some believing to people who don't know me! Mrs H and I have been together for 13 years but I have a daughter who is nearly 13 from a previous relationship. When we found out about my ex being pregnant I expected Mrs H to run a mile as we'd only been together a month or so! We now have 2 kids of our own and we have never been happier. Whether you have a child with a person or not, if they are not the one for you then you'd be stupid to go back just for the childs sake!! Talk it over with the guy, we're not all bad!! H. Never tire of hearing that H. Inspiring feel good factor. Take a leaf from H's book Kim. Merry Christmas to you all too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
turbonut Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 Hi Kim You both seem happy together and if he feels the same way about you it appears he’s moved on. Even though the child is young – indicating the split is recent – he is getting on with his new life with you. What would he gain by going back to a vindictive, bitter ex? However, he has a responsibility for the child and will need to play a part in its life and you will inevitably get drawn in as you get closer. It wont be an easy ride, you will play piggy in the middle, mediator, peacemaker and the target of unpleasantness and jealousy from the ex. It can be hard to detach yourself but staying neutral is the best way, I went through a similar thing for 3 years and it can test the strongest relationship. His families interference and his spineless behaviour destroyed it but by supporting each other it will hopefully work! Take it easy for now, talk about problems/worries as they come up and see how it goes. Hope it works out Kim, drop me a PM anytime if I can help Lxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kieren1234 Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 Cut your losses Kim, give me a ring, and lets go out for a drink :d On a serious note, its obvious you have doubts about the situation for you to seek advice from others. It is all down to how you feel about it. It could become extremely complicated in the future or it could be very easy, im assuming thats whether the father wants to be part of the childs life, be it now, or in the future. What i would do is, have a talk, weigh up the pros and cons and take it from there. Merry Christmas Kimberley, try and at least enjoy christmas/new year before you make any hasty decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 You met a girl/guy........really got on well, was together for awhile, spent most of your time together, loved each other blah blah But......they had a child with there ex, who was still very young. Just a question.....but would you feel he/she would go back to them, presuming they have no contact at all at the moment with either the parent or child? what would your feelings be? Oh dont i bring xmas cheer lol From my point of view, this girl I'd met, it would really depend on how big her tits were. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 From my point of view, this girl I'd met, it would really depend on how big her tits were. Correct priorities Rob..... H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
light-r Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 i´m with harvard and also with jurgen dont let a previous child be limitative of your happiness. follow your heart. if that person is the one, it should receive all you got as she will get back to you. regarding the other person, if he goes nutter, then you have a problem on your hands, and you should leave it to the authorities. they maybe slow, but if proven, they can prohibit the person to be in a radius of "x" around you. merry christmas and my wishes it all goes well, one way or the other Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
light-r Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 crap... just swap all the "he's" and "she's" in ym previous post. i thought you were a guy (never payed attention to your username) good luck kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyT Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 crap... just swap all the "he's" and "she's" in ym previous post. i thought you were a guy (never payed attention to your username) good luck kim Nice advice though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimberleyAnn Posted December 25, 2007 Author Share Posted December 25, 2007 haha no i am female! Thanks for your advice.......Merry xmas to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathew Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 From my point of view, this girl I'd met, it would really depend on how big her tits were. nice to see someone on the same wave length as me:d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 nice to see someone on the same wave length as me:d He never said under age did he?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathew Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 He never said under age did he?? im regretting making that thread already! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 im regretting making that thread already! Don't worry mate! It's just be between me and you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathew Posted December 25, 2007 Share Posted December 25, 2007 Don't worry mate! It's just be between me and you... you dont know how reassuring that is:d Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suprash Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 im regretting making that thread already! Oooo, what thread......show me, show me....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Havard Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 Oooo, what thread......show me, show me....... Here you go Ash..!! I just did a search for the word "Pervert"..... http://www.mkivsupra.net/vbb/showthread.php?t=134958&highlight=pervert H. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs H Posted December 26, 2007 Share Posted December 26, 2007 It's not an easy decision to make and although I didn't run a mile, finding out very early into a relationship that his ex was pregnant did seriously spook me and I had all the same "...what if..." questions running though my head. You can only base your decision on the strenght of your relationship, as long as you are both open and honest about your feelings it can and does work. But remember kids are for life not just for Chrismas;) Hope that helps! Vicki x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimberleyAnn Posted December 26, 2007 Author Share Posted December 26, 2007 It's not an easy decision to make and although I didn't run a mile, finding out very early into a relationship that his ex was pregnant did seriously spook me and I had all the same "...what if..." questions running though my head. You can only base your decision on the strenght of your relationship, as long as you are both open and honest about your feelings it can and does work. But remember kids are for life not just for Chrismas;) Hope that helps! Vicki x Thanks hun x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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