wow this could go on for a while.
The point here is a personal one, not the technicalities of ebay.
Like some members on here are trying to say, knowing someone else had put the deal together they would have happily backed off, especially due to club spirit seeing as it is a fellow member. Personally, i would have backed off if it was anyone else, member or not. Hence my post saying i dont like the way ebay is used by people.
Yes, technically you won the auction due to a mistake by the seller but thats not what people are pointing out here.
Personally, you have been burnt by ebay before, like many here. This is where the differentiation comes in, some will carry on trying to use it in a "nice" way and those that will seek to burn others in the same way.