*waves*
You need a machine polish, that's the crux of it really, unless your hands can spin at crazy RPMs for a few hours of course. Your fingers might have to work as a paint depth gauge too just to be safe
95% of the finish you see on a really well detailed car is down to a good machine polish IMO, the wax just enhances things that little bit more.
Of course you could go for a polish & wax that contains a lot of fillers and do it by hand but you are only hiding the defects and they will be back to haunt you again in a month or so. As daft as it sounds black Colour Magic will give quite impressive results, even more so if you wax over the top, it's a bit like Botox though, it's not a permanent fix and makes you feel a bit like a cheat.
The first thing you need to get right is the wash stage though, until you do that you'll just add scratches and swirls - lots of info on DW, in fact I'm shocked that you aren't getting the answers you want. Is this because you are asking questions that have been answered a lot already rather than searching? 2 bucket, test all cloths on a CD first to make sure they don't scratch, yadda, yadda...
Did you see my Supra detail thread over there? Mainly machine work though, it's really the only way forward to get good results.
Wax - personal choice, everyone sees different things when they view a comparison on a single car, I've had waxes costing silly money right next to ones costing £30 and you really can't see much difference on a well prepared car. The expensive one might just bead tighter and last that little bit longer maybe.
Dodo Blue Velvet looks nice on black, I also like Victoria Collectors and Chemical Guys 5050 for a nice wet finish, I suspect I've posted pics at some point, I usually do because I'm a bore
http://www.megaboost.co.uk/detailing/dodo-roof-00.jpg
http://www.megaboost.co.uk/supra/mine/detail-14-10-07/P1100729.JPG
http://www.megaboost.co.uk/supra/mine/detail-14-10-07/P1100718.JPG
http://www.megaboost.co.uk/supra/mine/detail-14-10-07/P1100847.JPG
Try out the stuff you already have though before you start spending more money on things - it's easy to get caught up in this kind of thing and get carried away trying new things.