Yes, I'm a software engineer, I'm aware of ethernet speed, but the point is why do you need that speed? Does it matter what speed the software connects to the ECU at? Any connection is faster than your eye and brain's ability to do anything with the info. I'm not a mapper, so maybe you're right and you would benefit from a faster connection, but it's not obvious to me! Of course wireless might be nice - not that easy to rig up in a car I would have thought though.
Same goes for a faster processor. As long as it's fast enough to control things properly it doesn't need to be any faster.
I don't need a new ECU, but if I was in the market for one I don't think I'd be interested in those features particularly, that's the point I'm trying to make. Cost on the other hand...